Kelly Faladeau’s Inspiration Journey

Kelly as one of the Most Inspirational People of 2020.

About the Guest: KELLY FALARDEAU

(pronounced fa-lar-doe)

Kelly Falardeau is a burn survivor since the age of 2 on 75% of her body. She found a way to go from near-death to success; from the ugly scar-faced girl to the TEDx stage twice, Fierce Woman of the Year, a 7x International Best-Selling Author, recipient of the Queen Elizabeth Diamond Jubilee Medal & YWCA Woman of Distinction. A documentary about her life story called “Still Beautiful” launched on TV plus Goalcast launched a video that has almost 10 million views. Now she’s a full-time Amazon Best-Selling Strategist, coaching people to become best-selling authors. On Christmas day, Global TV announced Kelly as one of the Most Inspirational People of 2020.

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About the Host:

Saylor Cooper is more than just an entrepreneur – he’s an inspiration. Despite facing the challenges of living with a disability, Saylor has never let that stop him from pursuing his dreams. Alongside his best friend Tyler, he’s embarked on a journey in entrepreneurship that has taken him to incredible heights.

At the heart of Saylor’s mission is the belief that anything is possible if you put in the hard work. And that’s exactly what he’s done. As the creator and host of Real Variety Radio, Saylor has built an internet radio station that offers an incredible range of programming from every genre of music and shows. He’s also the driving force behind the Hope Without Sight Podcast, where he interviews guests who have overcome challenges and become an inspiration to the world.

But Saylor’s ambitions don’t stop there. He’s always looking to attend networking events like Podapolooza and Speakers Playhouse to connect with fellow entrepreneurs and share their journeys together. He’s also working with speaking coaches to get booked on different types of stages and share his message with the world. And that’s just the beginning. Saylor has big plans for the future, including monetizing his internet radio station and hosting life coaching events to help others achieve their dreams. He’s also set his sights on writing a number of books, including an autobiography about his own life and a collaborative work with some of his most inspiring podcast guests. Ultimately, Saylor’s goal is simple: he wants to show others that no matter what challenges they may face, anything is possible if you have a dream and are willing to work hard to achieve it. And with Saylor leading the way, there’s no limit to what we can all achieve.

Below is his contact card, which includes his website and socials: https://ovou.me/livefasetiyacehe

About the Co-host:

Tyler Evans is an integral part of the entrepreneurial journey of his best friend and business partner, Saylor Cooper. Despite facing his own unique challenges, Tyler is determined to make a difference in the world through his hard work and unwavering dedication.

As an active participant in the day-to-day operations of Real Variety Radio, Tyler plays a crucial role in the success of the internet radio station that offers diverse programming from all genres of music and shows. He’s also a key contributor to the Hope Without Sight Podcast, where he helps to bring inspiring guests who have overcome adversity to the forefront.

Tyler’s passion for entrepreneurship is matched only by his love of networking. He enjoys attending events like Podapolooza and Speakers Playhouse, where he can connect with fellow entrepreneurs and learn from their experiences. While Tyler may not have founded or created anything on his own just yet, he’s an important member of the team and his contributions to the venture are invaluable.

Looking to the future, Tyler shares Saylor’s vision of making a difference in people’s lives and inspiring others to pursue their dreams despite any challenges they may face. He’s excited about the possibility of monetizing the internet radio station and hosting life coaching events alongside Saylor to help others reach their full potential.

Tyler’s ultimate goal is to collaborate with Saylor on writing books that share their individual and joint experiences, including an autobiography about his own life. Together, they hope to demonstrate to the world that anything is possible if one has the courage to chase their dreams and put in the hard work necessary to achieve them. With Tyler’s unwavering determination and entrepreneurial spirit, there’s no doubt he’ll continue to make a positive impact on the world around him.

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Transcript
Saylor Cooper:

Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of

Saylor Cooper:

Hope Without Sight with your host Saylor Cooper, and

Tyler Evans:

this is your co host, Tyler Evans.

Saylor Cooper:

Yes for episode 39. We're almost episode 40 and

Saylor Cooper:

hopefully outside. On this episode, we have a very special

Saylor Cooper:

lady. I got to know her through speakers play house. And guess

Saylor Cooper:

what? We we work together this past Saturday to write and

Saylor Cooper:

publish a book together in one day. We attempted to publish but

Saylor Cooper:

we got behind but it's no big deal. We're going to finish it

Saylor Cooper:

up. But before I welcome her I want introduce Kelly Falardeau

Saylor Cooper:

is a burn survivor since the age of two on 75% of her body, she

Saylor Cooper:

found a way to go from near death to success to the ugly,

Saylor Cooper:

ugly scarred face go to that TEDx stage not once but twice. A

Saylor Cooper:

documentary about her life story. Still beautiful. Launched

Saylor Cooper:

on TV. The video launch has over 10 million views. She's a full

Saylor Cooper:

time award winning speaker and best selling author strategist

Saylor Cooper:

coaching people to become best selling authors. Thank you,

Saylor Cooper:

Kelly. Yet local TV announced Kelly is Kelly's one of the most

Saylor Cooper:

inspirational people of 2020. Please welcome my dear friend

Saylor Cooper:

Kelly Falardeau Kelly, how you doing today?

Kelly Falardeau:

Oh my gosh. You know, whenever I hear from you

Kelly Falardeau:

put out just a giant biometric or so thank you for having me on

Kelly Falardeau:

your show today.

Saylor Cooper:

That so I want to start from the very beginning.

Saylor Cooper:

So I know that at the age of two, it was a major incident,

Saylor Cooper:

you will in a fire. Tell us what that day was like, What? What

Saylor Cooper:

happened? How did it start? And just tell us from the start?

Kelly Falardeau:

Sure. So when I was two years old, we lived on a

Kelly Falardeau:

farm. And in spruce Grove, Alberta. And my cousins were

Kelly Falardeau:

throwing shingles in the fire. They were nine and 11. And so

Kelly Falardeau:

they do the shingles on the fire. And I wanted to be outside

Kelly Falardeau:

with my cousins. And so my mom, let me go outside to be with

Kelly Falardeau:

them. And not even I think it was like five or 10 minutes

Kelly Falardeau:

later, my mom can hear us. I'm yelling and screaming and she

Kelly Falardeau:

opened the door and saw me in flames. So what had happened was

Kelly Falardeau:

that a spark had come out landed on my drafts and I exploded. And

Kelly Falardeau:

so you know, they grabbed a bucket of water, they poured the

Kelly Falardeau:

water on me put the plans out and rushed me to the hospital.

Kelly Falardeau:

And I spent four months in the hospital there and every two

Kelly Falardeau:

days I would have to be in the operating room for surgeries.

Kelly Falardeau:

And then every two years until I was about 20 years old. I would

Kelly Falardeau:

have to spend a month of my summer holidays in the hospital

Kelly Falardeau:

having more reconstructive surgery.

Saylor Cooper:

That's why Yeah, I know you had a lot of

Saylor Cooper:

surgeries because you almost you almost didn't make it so so what

Saylor Cooper:

do you mean by shingles? Like were they messing around with

Saylor Cooper:

like firecrackers were throwing stuff in the fire like doing

Saylor Cooper:

dumb stuff? And, and also like, I imagine the dress you have on

Saylor Cooper:

like didn't have very flammable material or what? Yeah, so the

Saylor Cooper:

shingles are from the the roof of the house is like there was

Saylor Cooper:

old wooden barn shingles. And so that's what grandpa had told

Saylor Cooper:

them. Well, we got to burn the the the old shingles, right? He

Saylor Cooper:

said we have to go burn them all and get rid of them because we

Saylor Cooper:

lived on a farm. So we did a lot of burning thing that could be

Saylor Cooper:

burned. And so today, we're just throwing them in the fire. So

Saylor Cooper:

they weren't doing anything they shouldn't have been doing. They

Saylor Cooper:

just should have had an adult around when they make sense.

Saylor Cooper:

Because then

Saylor Cooper:

the dangerous part of me. Yeah, they should they should have

Saylor Cooper:

adult around because anytime you play with fire, it's very

Saylor Cooper:

dangerous.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, absolutely. And then the dress

Kelly Falardeau:

that I was wearing had rayon. So it was a rayon dress, which is

Kelly Falardeau:

flammable. And so it's not something that you know, I

Kelly Falardeau:

should have been wearing, but that was back in 1968 when this

Kelly Falardeau:

happened. So it was a very, very long time ago.

Saylor Cooper:

And so, you were burned. So you I imagine you

Saylor Cooper:

were on fire for quite a while which is why 75 percent of your

Saylor Cooper:

body was burned, right?

Kelly Falardeau:

Well, what I think happened is that I think

Kelly Falardeau:

the spark landed on me and then I just exploded. Wow. And so

Kelly Falardeau:

they got me the fire out as quick as they could. And I think

Kelly Falardeau:

it was just because I was so little, like as a two year old.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, probably just barely two feet. So it wouldn't take very

Kelly Falardeau:

much for, you know, for me to be burned.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah. And had you been older, maybe you wouldn't

Saylor Cooper:

have been burned nearly as bad and you wouldn't have had as

Saylor Cooper:

many injuries. And so yeah, that makes sense.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah.

Saylor Cooper:

And so, yes, go to the hospital, you know, you

Saylor Cooper:

spent months and years in the hospital like you've had, I

Saylor Cooper:

think 40 surgeries, right.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah. So every two years, they would bring me

Kelly Falardeau:

back into the hospital for more reconstructive surgery. So what

Kelly Falardeau:

happened is my doctor needed me to grow taller, so that I would

Kelly Falardeau:

have more skin to work with. So that was why they needed to wait

Kelly Falardeau:

every two years. So then I would grow taller. And then I would

Kelly Falardeau:

have more skin.

Saylor Cooper:

I see.

Kelly Falardeau:

And so some of those surgeries was my arm

Kelly Falardeau:

underneath my arm, or it became it my, my arm joined my body

Kelly Falardeau:

down to my elbow. So it didn't work very well. So then they had

Kelly Falardeau:

a slice, they open my arm away from my body. And then they put

Kelly Falardeau:

me in a body cast. And I was in that body cast for about six

Kelly Falardeau:

months.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah, that's yeah, I read on your on, I've

Saylor Cooper:

watched some of your TEDx and I read your website, you had to be

Saylor Cooper:

in a body cast, and the doctors had to do lots of skin grafts.

Saylor Cooper:

They had to take certain skin off of certain parts of your

Saylor Cooper:

body and just I guess, we graph it like,

Kelly Falardeau:

so what they would do is because my legs were

Kelly Falardeau:

probably the only spot that I had natural skin. So they would

Kelly Falardeau:

take skin from my leg. And then they would put it like wherever

Kelly Falardeau:

my body needed a skin graft. So it could be on my chest. It

Kelly Falardeau:

could be on my arms underneath my arms, my face. One time, my

Kelly Falardeau:

chin, like my, my mouth wouldn't open and close properly, because

Kelly Falardeau:

of the scarring on my chin and my face. And so they took this

Kelly Falardeau:

piece of skin from my stomach. And they put that on my chin so

Kelly Falardeau:

I can open and close my mouth. So I could smile.

Saylor Cooper:

Wow, it's so um, I've heard I think your nose was

Saylor Cooper:

damaged like your nose was almost gone too.

Kelly Falardeau:

I know, my nose was fine. I mean, I do have some

Kelly Falardeau:

scarring on my nose. It was my right ear. So my right ear is

Kelly Falardeau:

really deformed. So you know you have that part of the your ear

Kelly Falardeau:

that is all burned off on me on my one year. So it's a little

Kelly Falardeau:

deformed ear so it doesn't work very Well.

Saylor Cooper:

Well, so simply put it like when was the are

Saylor Cooper:

you? Are you done with medical treatment yet? You know even if

Saylor Cooper:

you are like when was the last surgery you had?

Kelly Falardeau:

So yes, I'm pretty much done most of my

Kelly Falardeau:

major surgeries but done up until from two to 20 years old.

Kelly Falardeau:

And then when probably about I think, you know, about six or

Kelly Falardeau:

seven years ago, I started doing some laser surgery. And so the

Kelly Falardeau:

latest I started Dre was really cool. Basically what the laser

Kelly Falardeau:

surgery what that does, is they drilled tiny little holes in the

Kelly Falardeau:

scars tissue and then that pulls out the old skin and it allows

Kelly Falardeau:

new skin to grow. So they did probably about I think it was

Kelly Falardeau:

about 30 laser surgeries on me also. But that was like in the

Kelly Falardeau:

last you know, six to eight years.

Saylor Cooper:

Wow. In the last six so that is incredible. You

Saylor Cooper:

had surgery from the time of the incident until 20 early 20s I

Saylor Cooper:

don't know. I've never heard of anybody that has gone through

Saylor Cooper:

that before. You know Kelly, you're such a hero I admire you

Saylor Cooper:

so much for that and you've overcome that and you're good

Saylor Cooper:

now it's just so awesome. And now that we talked about your

Saylor Cooper:

medical you know all that stuff medically. You had to go food to

Saylor Cooper:

recover. Let's talk about like growing up i Of course I know

Saylor Cooper:

you've had You have lots of scarring. And of course, that

Saylor Cooper:

that caused a lot of implications to such as

Saylor Cooper:

bullying. And I know, your times were very tough, but how did

Saylor Cooper:

you? How will you still resilient to get through these

Saylor Cooper:

times? And of course, if you have any stories to share your

Saylor Cooper:

take it away.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, so resilience is a big thing,

Kelly Falardeau:

right? Like, how do we get through some of you know, being

Kelly Falardeau:

teased and bullied. When I was in grade five, I remember

Kelly Falardeau:

walking past my teacher's desk and someone had drawn a picture

Kelly Falardeau:

of me, and it was a circle. And it had scribbles all over it.

Kelly Falardeau:

And it said, Scarface. And my teacher had already dealt with

Kelly Falardeau:

it. But I was still devastated. Because of course, I knew that

Kelly Falardeau:

picture was about me, because there was nobody else in my

Kelly Falardeau:

classroom that had scars on their face. And so I thought,

Kelly Falardeau:

What am I going to do about this? Like, how am I going to,

Kelly Falardeau:

you know, get through this because, of course, I was

Kelly Falardeau:

devastated. I mean, I was praying and hoping my scars

Kelly Falardeau:

would go away. I remember when I was about 15, I would pray to

Kelly Falardeau:

God and I would say, Dear God, please don't make me wake up in

Kelly Falardeau:

the morning. But if I have to, can I at least be scarless, so I

Kelly Falardeau:

can be pretty like all the other girl, you know, thank you Amen.

Kelly Falardeau:

And of course, I woke up and of course, the scars were still

Kelly Falardeau:

there. And I was devastated. Because I just wanted my scars

Kelly Falardeau:

to be gone. I was I didn't want to be the ugly Scarface girl

Kelly Falardeau:

anymore. But I always wanted to focus on the future. So I would

Kelly Falardeau:

always, you know, be daydreaming about what I wanted my life to

Kelly Falardeau:

look like. And, you know, being married and, and having a you

Kelly Falardeau:

know,

Kelly Falardeau:

I never dreamed about having kids. I never thought I would

Kelly Falardeau:

ever be a mom.

Saylor Cooper:

Exactly.

Kelly Falardeau:

Because I my scars

Saylor Cooper:

nobody would want you.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, who would want me I didn't think anybody

Kelly Falardeau:

would want me. And then the second thing was, I didn't think

Kelly Falardeau:

I was physically able to have kids. I thought because of my

Kelly Falardeau:

scarring, the way it's so tight around my body, I didn't think

Kelly Falardeau:

I'd be able to have kids. So I think for a lot of it, it was

Kelly Falardeau:

just about not taking everything personally. And, you know, just

Kelly Falardeau:

just pushing through it and just realising that I deserved a life

Kelly Falardeau:

just as much as anybody dead. Right. Like I had people that

Kelly Falardeau:

were saying to me, I can't imagine going out in public

Kelly Falardeau:

looking like you. And I would like well, what am I supposed to

Kelly Falardeau:

do they home and do nothing?

Saylor Cooper:

Exactly. And you're, you're getting a message

Saylor Cooper:

of hope that you are you. I am me. Tyler, you are you and if

Saylor Cooper:

people don't want to accept us for who they are, that's on

Saylor Cooper:

them.

Tyler Evans:

That's right. You know, your story, Kelly. It

Tyler Evans:

really inspires us because we've been through maybe not the same

Tyler Evans:

situation, but similar ones where we were not expected to

Tyler Evans:

live. I mean, we were born, both of us three months premature.

Tyler Evans:

And yet, we still survived we our lungs collapsed as babies.

Tyler Evans:

And yet we were in the NICU. And we we made it through?

Saylor Cooper:

Yes, we did. We made it through.

Tyler Evans:

It was a few months later, but we did. And my twin

Tyler Evans:

brother, his eyes reversed on their underwear. He wasn't

Tyler Evans:

wanted anymore. And now he's fully sighted in everything.

Saylor Cooper:

And in fact, Kelly, we are writing a memoir

Saylor Cooper:

about this. And I know I was in the workshop with his Saturday,

Saylor Cooper:

I enjoyed it so much I question like whether, cuz I'm this book

Saylor Cooper:

I'm writing now, which is about stress and personality, by no

Saylor Cooper:

means not the only one. I'm going to write many, many more

Saylor Cooper:

like I just questioned like, which one I want to publish

Saylor Cooper:

first. And the reason why I chose to publish this book first

Saylor Cooper:

is one, it does relate to my topic, which is about overcoming

Saylor Cooper:

life's challenges, and also living a life of bliss. It gives

Saylor Cooper:

a lot of information on how to do that. And also, I got strong

Saylor Cooper:

I got started and work on that book first. But by no means

Saylor Cooper:

like, by all means I do have a manuscript. We entitled we have

Saylor Cooper:

manuscripts of a memoir. In fact, we went over it. This past

Saylor Cooper:

week, I stayed with him, we will never so what I'm gonna do is

Saylor Cooper:

I'm gonna start combining with chat GPT. And you know what, I

Saylor Cooper:

think this is a book that I want to publish next after I finish

Saylor Cooper:

this current one. How's that sound?

Kelly Falardeau:

That sounds fantastic. I love the idea.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah.

Saylor Cooper:

And once you know how to do it, you'll be able to do as many

Kelly Falardeau:

books as you want not the beautiful thing

Kelly Falardeau:

about, you know, publishing a book on Amazon is they make it

Kelly Falardeau:

so easy. And it's free to put your book up on Amazon. And so I

Kelly Falardeau:

just love it. Yeah. Because, of course, since I can't see

Kelly Falardeau:

everything like, I'll just need help with each time I doing. I

Kelly Falardeau:

just need help with the visuals sections for formatting and the

Kelly Falardeau:

covers and all that, you know, to make sure it looks good. It

Kelly Falardeau:

does well. And what and what's cool is we don't have to just

Kelly Falardeau:

put our book on Amazon. We can even put it in stores everywhere

Kelly Falardeau:

as well. And paperback eventually. That's right.

Tyler Evans:

Yeah, two hundred people can pick it up and read

Tyler Evans:

it in mainstream stores that way. It's not just on Amazon,

Tyler Evans:

you know, and I believe that they will come. I mean, I think

Tyler Evans:

first Amazon, yeah. See how it goes. And then in the future,

Tyler Evans:

expand, and then include audible, audible as well. So,

Saylor Cooper:

exactly. And you know, and you know what? Yeah,

Saylor Cooper:

that day, definitely will come and so yeah, totally. And it

Saylor Cooper:

will. Like, what else do you have to share? Like, the I also,

Saylor Cooper:

I remember, I did see your TEDx about you give me a message.

Saylor Cooper:

About a looking in the mirror? That one no.

Kelly Falardeau:

So what happened was, I knew that I

Kelly Falardeau:

wanted to do a TEDx talk. I just didn't know what I wanted it to

Kelly Falardeau:

be about. So this one, this one TEDx event, the theme was

Kelly Falardeau:

unprovable or unsolvable problem. And I thought, You know

Kelly Falardeau:

what?

Kelly Falardeau:

Ugly is could be made into an acronym. It's only four letters.

Kelly Falardeau:

And I thought, why don't I make ugly into an acronym and make it

Kelly Falardeau:

into a beautiful word? Ya know, nobody thinks that the word ugly

Kelly Falardeau:

is beautiful. And so. And I've been called ugly so many times,

Kelly Falardeau:

and I've called myself ugly. You know, I think sometimes we are

Kelly Falardeau:

our worst or our harshest critic, because ourselves. And

Kelly Falardeau:

so I thought, you know, what, I want to change just I want, I

Kelly Falardeau:

want to make this better. And I thought to myself, why when new

Kelly Falardeau:

people learn that the mirror talks, okay? So, and I thought,

Kelly Falardeau:

You know what, here's what it is when people watch No, wait, when

Kelly Falardeau:

little girls and little boys watched no way that 23456 years

Kelly Falardeau:

old, they see the Evil Queen talking to the mirror. And she

Kelly Falardeau:

asked the mirror question, and the mirror talks back. And I

Kelly Falardeau:

thought, oh, my gosh, we learn at such a young age that the

Kelly Falardeau:

mirror talks to us.

Saylor Cooper:

Yes.

Kelly Falardeau:

And it's our voice. It's our own voice that

Kelly Falardeau:

we're hearing. But still, we think that the mayor is talking

Kelly Falardeau:

to us. And so I thought that's fascinating. I you know, because

Kelly Falardeau:

I wanted to know, how do people know that? And I know that when

Kelly Falardeau:

I would look in the mirror, and I would say Yuk, who's gonna

Kelly Falardeau:

love that, like, I'm covered on scars, who's gonna love someone

Kelly Falardeau:

that looks ugly like me. And you know, of course, I was being

Kelly Falardeau:

very hard on my style. So anyways, so I thought, okay,

Kelly Falardeau:

ugly, What can it mean? And I came up with all kinds of words.

Kelly Falardeau:

And so the U stands for unique, every single one of us is unique

Kelly Falardeau:

in our own special way. The G stands for gorgeous, or if

Kelly Falardeau:

you're a guy, then for good looking. And we're all gorgeous

Kelly Falardeau:

or good looking. And we what we have to do is stop comparing

Kelly Falardeau:

ourselves to other people. And I know that when I stopped

Kelly Falardeau:

comparing myself and worrying what everybody else was thinking

Kelly Falardeau:

about, I started to realise that I am beautiful, I am gorgeous.

Saylor Cooper:

I then will I've compared myself to other people,

Saylor Cooper:

because I haven't felt like I haven't been good enough. And

Saylor Cooper:

that is not healthy.

Kelly Falardeau:

No, absolutely. Because you're comparing

Kelly Falardeau:

yourself to other people. And yet, you might have skills and

Kelly Falardeau:

talents and other qualities about you that make you an

Kelly Falardeau:

amazing person, even more so than the other person. Right? So

Kelly Falardeau:

we're comparing ourselves to people. And every time we do

Kelly Falardeau:

that, we diminish ourselves.

Saylor Cooper:

Yes, we do.

Kelly Falardeau:

The L stands for love of all we are all

Kelly Falardeau:

lovable. The problem is sometimes that we don't always

Kelly Falardeau:

hear it, or we don't always feel it. And when we don't hear it or

Kelly Falardeau:

feel it, then we think nobody loves us. And that's not true.

Kelly Falardeau:

Everybody. People do love the peppermint. We need to now you

Kelly Falardeau:

know share it with the world more. We need to reach out to

Kelly Falardeau:

people more and tell them that we love them. I would do this

Kelly Falardeau:

little exercise. It would be like a Sunday morning and I

Kelly Falardeau:

would just text like randomly 10-20 people and say, Hey, has

Kelly Falardeau:

anybody told you how special you are? And, people would text me

Kelly Falardeau:

back. And they would say, thank you. You don't know how much I

Kelly Falardeau:

needed to hear that today.

Saylor Cooper:

Oh, that's so cool, because we all need to

Saylor Cooper:

hear that

Tyler Evans:

That is amazing.

Saylor Cooper:

And we should maybe implement this in our hero

Saylor Cooper:

system that we have in that text like this go out to our members

Saylor Cooper:

at certain time, which will, we'll talk about hero in a

Saylor Cooper:

little bit.

Saylor Cooper:

But yeah, L What does? If you have nothing else for the L What

Saylor Cooper:

is the y stand for

Kelly Falardeau:

The Y stands for you. So the unique,

Kelly Falardeau:

gorgeous, lovable you is Darrell beautiful, and not the basis of

Kelly Falardeau:

my TEDx talk?

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah, Kelly, you have made fine, because I'm

Saylor Cooper:

still understanding myself. Because I've experienced that

Saylor Cooper:

with certain people who have not accepted me for who I am.

Saylor Cooper:

Because, I mean, I know they don't mean to, they just don't

Saylor Cooper:

quite understand. And this, me being on this journey, has

Saylor Cooper:

taught me so much about myself, especially since embarking on it

Saylor Cooper:

last year, I, I've gotten to interview so many great people

Saylor Cooper:

who have unique talents and skills and stories, just like

Saylor Cooper:

you, Kelly, and you're teaching me so much. And I'm grateful for

Kelly Falardeau:

Thank you. I am, I am grateful for you guys.

Kelly Falardeau:

you.

Kelly Falardeau:

And I love the work you do. Because

Tyler Evans:

Thank you.

Kelly Falardeau:

I know that there's other like burn

Kelly Falardeau:

survivors out there, for example, who, who see their

Kelly Falardeau:

their tragedy as a tragedy, and it holds them back in life. And

Kelly Falardeau:

they think their life is over. And they think they can have a

Kelly Falardeau:

great life. And then you'll see other burn survivors like myself

Kelly Falardeau:

or Spencer B. Or John, you know, there's so many other burn

Kelly Falardeau:

survivors out there that are like, Yeah, this happened to me,

Kelly Falardeau:

but what am I going to do about it? And how am I going to help

Kelly Falardeau:

other people. And so that's why I love what you guys are doing

Kelly Falardeau:

is because you're not letting you know, your disability hold

Kelly Falardeau:

you back in life. You guys are using your disability to help

Kelly Falardeau:

other people. And that's, the more out is we need to show

Kelly Falardeau:

people that we are lovable, we are acceptable. We deserve to

Kelly Falardeau:

have a great life. And don't let you know a tragedy. hold you

Kelly Falardeau:

back.

Saylor Cooper:

No,

Tyler Evans:

that's right.

Saylor Cooper:

And you haven't and because I know like you'd

Saylor Cooper:

never thought you would have kids. And you did. And so I'm

Saylor Cooper:

I'm sure like, either even grind this message within your kids.

Saylor Cooper:

And I know I also read in your bio that unfortunately, you had

Saylor Cooper:

to divorce. And I mean, we get that that happens. I mean, what

Saylor Cooper:

what led you to do that if you know if you wanted to get if you

Saylor Cooper:

want to get married,

Kelly Falardeau:

what happened was, we were together for 24

Kelly Falardeau:

years. And I met him when I was like 20 years old. And I just

Kelly Falardeau:

wasn't in love with him anymore. And it was a really toxic

Kelly Falardeau:

marriage.

Kelly Falardeau:

You know, I remember it was my 24th

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah.

Saylor Cooper:

anniversary with him. And I remember that little voice and

Saylor Cooper:

it was our anniversary, I was really upset. I didn't even buy

Saylor Cooper:

my anniversary gift. I I hate buying gifts. But I didn't even

Saylor Cooper:

like to buy him anything. And I didn't. And he was really upset

Saylor Cooper:

with me. I didn't buy him anything. And so I remember, you

Saylor Cooper:

know, went to bed and I'm, I hear him snoring. So I know

Saylor Cooper:

you're sleeping and and I went to the bathroom and I just

Saylor Cooper:

started crying. And that little voice said to me, you've done 24

Saylor Cooper:

years like this, you're only 44 years old. Can you do another

Saylor Cooper:

24? And I said, No, I can't do another 24 years. And I said,

Saylor Cooper:

okay, and I said Help me, get me out of this. And so that's what

Saylor Cooper:

I did that I stopped crying and I went to bed and all of a

Saylor Cooper:

sudden the universe started making things happen. And it was

Saylor Cooper:

just, I just really felt like I needed to be let go out of that

Saylor Cooper:

marriage. I just felt like, you know, my husband, it seemed like

Saylor Cooper:

he felt like the life was full of doom and gloom. Like we were

Saylor Cooper:

almost bankrupt. And my business was just costing us too much

Saylor Cooper:

money at the time. And I just couldn't, couldn't make it. And

Saylor Cooper:

then I saw the world is full of possibilities. I was learning to

Saylor Cooper:

be a speaker. I was writing my book. And so I saw the world is

Saylor Cooper:

full of possibilities. He saw the world as full of doom and

Saylor Cooper:

gloom. And I just couldn't make it work.

Saylor Cooper:

You're on the same page. And so like, I

Saylor Cooper:

imagine like you asked you, you've prepared yourself you

Saylor Cooper:

asked for a divorce. Wilson, you know, he agreed and, you know,

Saylor Cooper:

off it went like that, right?

Kelly Falardeau:

Well, here's what happened is we had a, you

Kelly Falardeau:

know, a talk about it. And he said to me, are you saying that

Kelly Falardeau:

we need to split up? And I said, Yeah, I think we do. And he

Kelly Falardeau:

said, Well, you can only leave if you give me the house and the

Kelly Falardeau:

kids. And I was like, Oh my gosh, my mother is never

Kelly Falardeau:

supposed to leave her kids. And I said, Okay, I will leave, I

Kelly Falardeau:

will give you the house and the kidsSo I didn't want the house

Kelly Falardeau:

because I couldn't afford the house. And what we did with the

Kelly Falardeau:

kids is I still saw them every day. He had to go to work every

Kelly Falardeau:

morning at 530 in the morning. So I would come to the house

Kelly Falardeau:

every day at 530 in the morning, I would get the kids off to

Kelly Falardeau:

school, and I'd be there when they came home from school. And

Kelly Falardeau:

then every two days they would come home with me. So I still,

Kelly Falardeau:

you know, completely active with the kids live. Yeah. But yeah,

Kelly Falardeau:

it was devastating for me, but but I knew it was what I had to

Kelly Falardeau:

do.

Unknown:

Wow. And you and your kids have imagined grown like,

Kelly Falardeau:

yeah, my my daughter is 23. And my twin boys

Kelly Falardeau:

are 20 years old.

Saylor Cooper:

Wow. And it was hard. But you, you persevere.

Saylor Cooper:

You push through. And now your business. It's on fire.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, that's right. Things are going really

Kelly Falardeau:

well. Now that I'm coaching people to become bestselling

Kelly Falardeau:

authors and get their books out. Yeah, that day, and then now

Kelly Falardeau:

with chat GPT that's really been exciting. And so now I'm

Kelly Falardeau:

coaching people how to read their books using CAT GPT. And

Kelly Falardeau:

that's been really cool, too. So

Tyler Evans:

yeah, I just I just wanted to say something about

Tyler Evans:

that. Chat GPT I was joking with Saylor earlier on a text, I sent

Tyler Evans:

him a text about my mom, a poem about her that I wrote from Chad

Tyler Evans:

GPT. I told him Look, this app knows everything lol because I

Tyler Evans:

basically told it. Hey, how do you make something in the some

Tyler Evans:

simple? It told me exactly how to do it. How do you cook this?

Tyler Evans:

How do you do this? How do you do this? How do you do that? And

Tyler Evans:

it knows it. To know this. And what's cool is I'm just using my

Tyler Evans:

phone, I went to the chat.open@ai.com. and all that

Tyler Evans:

with my Google account, whatever. And I just typed it in

Tyler Evans:

boom. just spits out stuff. Yeah, like really anything. You

Tyler Evans:

can do research on anything.

Saylor Cooper:

You can. It's it's an A since it launched in

Saylor Cooper:

November. I'm just impressed of how far it's come along in such

Saylor Cooper:

a short time. And I can't wait to see how much further it comes

Saylor Cooper:

along.

Tyler Evans:

The only thing I wish I wish it had current

Tyler Evans:

knowledge of like 2023 and 2022. But it only goes up to 2021

Tyler Evans:

right now.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, it's all it's all coming. You know, it'd

Kelly Falardeau:

be another there's gonna be more versions coming out. I know that

Kelly Falardeau:

I do like cat GPT for a little bit better. So it gives you a

Kelly Falardeau:

little bit more in depth information. So yeah, but we're

Kelly Falardeau:

just gonna keep working at it. And it's okay. Because the thing

Kelly Falardeau:

is really chat GPT is to me, I use it as a foundational piece.

Kelly Falardeau:

I use it as a brainstorming tool, an idea generator, and

Kelly Falardeau:

then I put my own personality and my own content into it.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, that's what I do, too. Yeah. Yeah. And my own stories

Kelly Falardeau:

and that sort of thing. So yeah,

Tyler Evans:

and it knows it knows grammar too. Like let's

Tyler Evans:

say you're like, hey, correct. The following sentence is

Tyler Evans:

grammatically colon and type, just whatever you put, and then

Tyler Evans:

just hit submit. Boom.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah. And that's something else that I've

Kelly Falardeau:

been teaching people how to do in the workshop is how to take a

Kelly Falardeau:

piece of content and edit it using CHAT GPT. And it's just so

Kelly Falardeau:

cool.

Tyler Evans:

Oh my gosh, you can even do with text, you can do

Tyler Evans:

anything.

Saylor Cooper:

And I look forward to using it so much more

Saylor Cooper:

better. Yeah. So on that note, all businesses really sparking,

Saylor Cooper:

right. We as we have some great surprises. I mean, it's all not

Saylor Cooper:

just of course, you Kelly now you help you. You're a part of

Saylor Cooper:

this, but it's all thanks to Michelle Abraham, She's

Saylor Cooper:

incredible. We would not be where we are without her. And

Tyler Evans:

we also can't we also can't forget your friends

Tyler Evans:

Scott Irwin and Kevin Kirk.

Saylor Cooper:

Of course, they've helped us financially I

Saylor Cooper:

mean, we haven't made we haven't made any revenue yet. But I

Saylor Cooper:

Kelly I'm sure you know, it's coming really soon?

Tyler Evans:

Oh, yeah, it'll be here. Yeah.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah. And you know, and another thing you

Kelly Falardeau:

could do is you could take your podcast episodes and make them

Kelly Falardeau:

into a book.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah, I'm gonna do that too,

Tyler Evans:

that would be a wonderful thing. Absolutely.

Saylor Cooper:

That's another project I'm gonna work on as

Saylor Cooper:

well.

Tyler Evans:

It's like limitless, what you can do with

Tyler Evans:

a business. It really is. It's like, an entrepreneur is

Tyler Evans:

freedom. It equals freedom. You can like, do what you want, and

Tyler Evans:

not be tied down to a boss, ya know, and all the baggage that

Tyler Evans:

might entail, you know, no offence on people who are

Tyler Evans:

employed. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of unemployed

Tyler Evans:

people. But

Saylor Cooper:

so yeah, um, Kelly, I know, you have so much

Saylor Cooper:

time that so I don't want to take up too much of that. So I

Saylor Cooper:

just want to get to a few more things. So of course, she you've

Saylor Cooper:

written five books, right? You're on your sixth one.

Kelly Falardeau:

Actually, I think I've written six, and I'm

Kelly Falardeau:

on my seventh.

Saylor Cooper:

And so if you can show us if you show to us, like

Saylor Cooper:

what your books are about where people can get them, and also

Saylor Cooper:

tell us more about like, the speaking gigs, because I'm

Saylor Cooper:

getting into paid speaking to I'm sure your flight king. He

Saylor Cooper:

and I were working together until my speaking career needs

Saylor Cooper:

to, to be where it needs to be, or until we die trying, as we

Saylor Cooper:

say, so I'm with you there girl about all that.

Saylor Cooper:

I love it. I love that you get in your message out there

Tyler Evans:

Because Oh, yeah.

Kelly Falardeau:

People People need to hear your guys's

Kelly Falardeau:

messages. And absolutely, our messages, inspire people to have

Kelly Falardeau:

hope. And that's what it's all about. We want to give people

Kelly Falardeau:

hope that they too, can have a great life. And you know, I'll

Kelly Falardeau:

never forget one day I was in Florida. And I was I was at a

Kelly Falardeau:

burn survivor conference. And they were the 1000 burn

Kelly Falardeau:

survivors there. And I was like, oh my god, this is crazy. And

Kelly Falardeau:

this was the very beginning of my speaking career. So I didn't

Kelly Falardeau:

have a lot of confidence in myself. And I, I remember

Kelly Falardeau:

listening to this guy speaking, he was a burn survivor. And he

Kelly Falardeau:

had no hands like his his fingers were all burned off. And

Kelly Falardeau:

he was showing us how he is a drummer. And it made me dan

Kelly Falardeau:

Cara. And he showed us what he did. And he talked for an hour

Kelly Falardeau:

with no handouts or nothing. And I would like just totally

Kelly Falardeau:

shocked. And here I am. I'm in tears and, and I'm texting my

Kelly Falardeau:

best friend at the time. And I said, Oh my gosh, I don't know

Kelly Falardeau:

how I'm gonna do this. Like, I don't even know why they want me

Kelly Falardeau:

to speak because I didn't. I didn't see value in my story at

Kelly Falardeau:

that time. And so I'm walking in, I'm walking, and I'm talking

Kelly Falardeau:

to him and I'm crying. And I said, I don't know how I can

Kelly Falardeau:

help these people. And I came to the end of the sidewalk. And I

Kelly Falardeau:

looked up and I saw this street sign. And it said hope

Kelly Falardeau:

Boulevard. And I was like, Oh my God. I guess I can just give

Kelly Falardeau:

them hope.

Saylor Cooper:

Yes.

Tyler Evans:

That's right.

Kelly Falardeau:

That is what you know we are meant to do is

Kelly Falardeau:

just to give people hope that no matter who you are, or what you

Kelly Falardeau:

look like or what you've been through, you're meant to live

Kelly Falardeau:

through there so that you can teach other people how to have a

Kelly Falardeau:

great life.

Saylor Cooper:

That's right. Amen. We're doing just that.

Saylor Cooper:

Tyler, right.

Tyler Evans:

Yeah. You know, something? I, I am so thankful

Tyler Evans:

to live. I'm so grateful that I was born here in America. I

Tyler Evans:

really am. Damn going to be biassed, because you're from

Tyler Evans:

Canada.

Tyler Evans:

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, by no means. But I'm telling

Tyler Evans:

you,

Tyler Evans:

when we think about what these people did, from our founding

Tyler Evans:

fathers, to just all these people who bled and died for us

Tyler Evans:

so that we could live in freedom and liberty, like that gives us

Tyler Evans:

hope to the fact that we were not in this alone. You know, we

Tyler Evans:

can live and freedom and liberty and pursue our dreams. Because

Tyler Evans:

that gives people hope, knowing that you don't have to be

Tyler Evans:

subjected to a king or a queen or whatever. You know, that can

Tyler Evans:

give us hope. Freedom is hope. And also, you know, I'm a, you

Tyler Evans:

know, I'm a Christian. And I believe ultimately, God gives us

Tyler Evans:

hope through Jesus Christ. That's what I believe to see

Kelly Falardeau:

you guys ever get asked, I know I get asked

Kelly Falardeau:

this question every once in a while and people ask me. Do you

Kelly Falardeau:

wish that this never happened to you

Tyler Evans:

being blind? Oh, yeah.

Tyler Evans:

Oh, yeah. Yes, absolutely.

Tyler Evans:

I've had Tom probably about that.

Kelly Falardeau:

What do you say about that question? And bless?

Kelly Falardeau:

I'm fine.

Tyler Evans:

Oh, yeah. Well, I would say when I was younger,

Tyler Evans:

you know, I used to be jealous of sighted people because I

Tyler Evans:

wanted to do arrive I wanted to do stuff. And I thought, oh

Tyler Evans:

being blind, oh, you can't do this. You can't do that. But in

Tyler Evans:

reality, yes, you can. You can do anything. You may not be able

Tyler Evans:

to drive yet, but they're working on it. Who knows? Maybe

Tyler Evans:

in my lifetime? I'll see it. I don't know.

Kelly Falardeau:

Well with the cars that drive by themselves.

Tyler Evans:

Yeah. But then you got to think, you know,

Tyler Evans:

malfunctions. And what if this happens? What if that happened?

Tyler Evans:

You know, that's thing, but they're also making a car where

Tyler Evans:

the blind person is in full control to, it isn't just a self

Tyler Evans:

driving car, they're in full control of the car.

Kelly Falardeau:

Wow.

Tyler Evans:

Yeah. It's kind of like when you use an iPhone,

Tyler Evans:

exactly. It's optimised to where you can use it sighted or blind.

Tyler Evans:

And there might even be a feature in a car in the future

Tyler Evans:

where you turn off this feature, and it reverts back to a sighted

Tyler Evans:

person driving. And then you can turn the little feature on it

Tyler Evans:

makes it where a blind person can draft kind of like

Tyler Evans:

voiceover. Yeah, on the FM or talkback on an Android. But

Tyler Evans:

yeah, me, personally, you know, I'm blessed as well, like the

Tyler Evans:

fact that I don't have to see, I don't have to see to see the

Tyler Evans:

future. In fact, yesterday, I was at church. And our pastor,

Tyler Evans:

he was talking about how we, you know, don't have to, you know,

Tyler Evans:

like, we can see, we need to see the whole picture, basically.

Tyler Evans:

And he was talking about how the first thing I'm gonna see, he

Tyler Evans:

mentioned me by name, he said, the first thing you're gonna see

Tyler Evans:

when you get to heaven, is Jesus. And that's going to be

Tyler Evans:

the greatest image you'll ever see. Yeah, never. So yeah.

Saylor Cooper:

And I'm so blessed to be who I am to the

Saylor Cooper:

fact that I was born three months premature, almost not

Saylor Cooper:

expected to survive. Not the same situation, but kind of like

Saylor Cooper:

with what you went through Kelly, they I'm here. And I have

Saylor Cooper:

unique gifts. I'm blessed. Apps Absolutely. Same with me. You

Saylor Cooper:

know, I was three months premature as well. And I wasn't

Saylor Cooper:

supposed to live. But I did love it.

Kelly Falardeau:

I love it. I know. When people asked me that

Kelly Falardeau:

question, you know, do you wish it never happened to you? I say

Kelly Falardeau:

if you were to ask me that when I was a teenager, I probably

Kelly Falardeau:

would have said, Yes. I wish it wouldn't have happened to me.

Kelly Falardeau:

But when you ask me that, as an adult, I say, I am happy that it

Kelly Falardeau:

happened to me because Because of this, all these other amazing

Kelly Falardeau:

things have happened to me. And I wouldn't be able to teach

Kelly Falardeau:

people, you know how to love who they are, or to accept who they

Kelly Falardeau:

are. If I hadn't been through this, right?

Tyler Evans:

Well, I would, I would say the same. I would say

Tyler Evans:

the same thing to because when I was younger, yeah, went through

Tyler Evans:

phases. I wanted to see I wanted to drive. But now I'm actually

Tyler Evans:

cool. Being blind actually like it.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah. I'm sure. I'm sure like you were at rock

Saylor Cooper:

bottom thinking you just want to give up and just be done with

Saylor Cooper:

this, right?

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, yeah, as a child, I didn't want to be

Kelly Falardeau:

burned. I wanted to be pretty, I wanted to be beautiful. I wanted

Kelly Falardeau:

to have a boyfriend and, you know, be like my girlfriends.

Kelly Falardeau:

But as an adult, I mean, I see the gift and what I what I'd

Kelly Falardeau:

have and what I do. And so that to me is more important.

Tyler Evans:

Oh, yeah. And you know, me being blind, I can

Tyler Evans:

teach other people skills such as Braille and iPhone and the

Tyler Evans:

Braille No, you know, all these things. And a lot of people

Tyler Evans:

don't, you know, they don't. They may have heard of Braille.

Tyler Evans:

But they don't quite grasp the fact. Like, some of them are

Tyler Evans:

like, how do you use that phone? How do you use this? How do you

Tyler Evans:

use that? How do you write and read and all this? Well, I can

Tyler Evans:

show you where your screen readers, we use a regular

Tyler Evans:

computer like everybody else, we can print documents, we can boss

Tyler Evans:

them, which is brilliant. And with a braille printer, we can

Tyler Evans:

do all these things. It's just blindness is one of those things

Tyler Evans:

that you know, people just need to be educated on. And luckily,

Tyler Evans:

there's been a lot of education on it. And there's been a lot of

Tyler Evans:

improvements. For instance, when you go vote, you can vote via

Tyler Evans:

Braille and a wheel on an on a machine with headphones. And

Tyler Evans:

it's pretty amazing.

Tyler Evans:

So there's a lie. That is there's a lot that has gone into

Tyler Evans:

improving accessibility for blind people. And also it goes

Tyler Evans:

back to our theme of hope without sight because in the

Tyler Evans:

end, you don't have to see visually, to even have hope.

Tyler Evans:

Exactly. And ultimately what what it boils down to help with

Tyler Evans:

outsiders. Hope without a way in other words, even though you may

Tyler Evans:

not see a way there's hope in the darkness.

Saylor Cooper:

And on that note, I want to share I want to get to

Saylor Cooper:

close close with marks because I do want to be respectful of your

Saylor Cooper:

time. I don't know how much time you have. I know Kelly, your

Saylor Cooper:

your you are on Hilo FM, which is great. And guess what we are

Saylor Cooper:

too good to have our viewers, if you text bless to this number

Saylor Cooper:

that will get you started on living a more happy life. I know

Saylor Cooper:

Kela you are there, Clearly, but to all these viewers who are

Saylor Cooper:

watching now on Facebook, text, this text BLISS to this number.

Saylor Cooper:

I hope that everybody can see in the chat, because I put this in

Saylor Cooper:

the chat.

Kelly Falardeau:

What about what about on Facebook? Did you put

Kelly Falardeau:

anything on there? Yeah, I did. Yes. If you text bliss to

Kelly Falardeau:

832-481-6806, you will start your journey to a more

Kelly Falardeau:

fulfilling life. So please do that. And we have some, we have

Kelly Falardeau:

some great surprises for you once you opt in.

Tyler Evans:

So absolutely. Just be on the lookout for a text.

Tyler Evans:

And updates will be made available on there as well as on

Tyler Evans:

our social networks.

Saylor Cooper:

Exactly. And so on that note, let's go are

Saylor Cooper:

closing remarks. And I want to read something very special to

Saylor Cooper:

you on the podcast. Kelly. So Tyler, do you want to ask the

Saylor Cooper:

our customary ending question to Kelly?

Tyler Evans:

Yeah. So what do you say to people who feel like

Tyler Evans:

there's not a way out that they just want to give it up? Throw

Tyler Evans:

in the towel and just give up on life?

Kelly Falardeau:

Oh, boy, that's an excellent question. You know,

Kelly Falardeau:

um, I would say just to reach out to one person.

Tyler Evans:

Yeah,

Saylor Cooper:

yes.

Kelly Falardeau:

All about reaching out to someone who

Kelly Falardeau:

loves and supports you. And just ask them for help. There was a

Kelly Falardeau:

time when I wanted to end my life. There was a time.

Tyler Evans:

Oh, man.

Kelly Falardeau:

And I remember sitting at the, you know, on the

Kelly Falardeau:

floor, with my iPad googling how to end my life.

Saylor Cooper:

Oh, no.

Tyler Evans:

oh Man,

Kelly Falardeau:

and but I have three conditions. One is my kids

Kelly Falardeau:

couldn't be the one to find me. It had to be final. And it had

Kelly Falardeau:

to be painless.

Kelly Falardeau:

And I started thinking about my family. And I started thinking

Kelly Falardeau:

about my kids. My kids would blame themselves. If I ended my

Kelly Falardeau:

life. They would think it was their fault. They would think

Kelly Falardeau:

they were bad kids. And if they were if they would have been

Kelly Falardeau:

good kids. I wouldn't have ended my life. I started thinking

Kelly Falardeau:

about my mom. My mom would have been devastated. My mom would

Kelly Falardeau:

have been like, oh my gosh, maybe I should have been a

Kelly Falardeau:

better mom to Kelly. My My sister would have said, Oh my

Kelly Falardeau:

gosh, I can't believe this happened. If Kelly needed money.

Kelly Falardeau:

Why didn't she come to me? Because we have money, we would

Kelly Falardeau:

have given her all the money she needed. You know, and I started

Kelly Falardeau:

thinking about all those people. And I thought, how horrible

Kelly Falardeau:

would that be my ex husband even would have said, I wish I

Kelly Falardeau:

wouldn't have had that fight with Kalin to would be living.

Kelly Falardeau:

You know, and I thought this is just horrible. And I thought

Kelly Falardeau:

what can I do? What is one step that I can take to you know, get

Kelly Falardeau:

myself out of this. And basically, it was just, you

Kelly Falardeau:

know, talking to people who I love and support who support me,

Kelly Falardeau:

you know, my best friend. If, you know, if I were to come to

Kelly Falardeau:

her and say, You know what, I want to end my life, she would

Kelly Falardeau:

be like cow, what do we need to do to help you? Right? So it's

Kelly Falardeau:

all about just reaching out to people that love and support

Kelly Falardeau:

you. They want to help you

Saylor Cooper:

and people that understand you too, because

Saylor Cooper:

everybody can try to help but not everybody will understand

Saylor Cooper:

what you've gone through because they have different

Saylor Cooper:

perspectives. And I've experienced that myself.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

Tyler Evans:

Absolutely. Yeah.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah. Anybody who thinks that they know the

Kelly Falardeau:

solution to your life?

Kelly Falardeau:

You know, and they don't, people don't always know. Oh, no, no.

Kelly Falardeau:

And

Tyler Evans:

people, you know, always say, you know, if there's

Tyler Evans:

one thing you do not say to someone who's grieving. Get over

Tyler Evans:

it. You don't say that? Yeah, just don't say that. You say,

Tyler Evans:

Look, I can't I don't know. I don't fully understand what

Tyler Evans:

you're going through. But in a sense, I kind of do but at the

Tyler Evans:

same time, all I can do is just be there and try to help. And

Tyler Evans:

grieving doesn't have to be just over a loved one dying or

Tyler Evans:

anything like that. It could be just over a conditioner.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah.

Tyler Evans:

Be a job you lost. It can be whatever.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah. And then the other thing that I did

Kelly Falardeau:

because you know, sometimes you don't want to talk, right? I

Kelly Falardeau:

would just go to YouTube and I would look up motivational

Kelly Falardeau:

speakers. And then I would just watch videos and and that really

Kelly Falardeau:

helped me too because a lot of times I don't feel like talking

Kelly Falardeau:

to people, I'm very introverted. And sometimes I don't want to. I

Kelly Falardeau:

don't want to I don't want to talk.

Tyler Evans:

Yeah. Well,

Kelly Falardeau:

motivational videos really helped me too.

Saylor Cooper:

So your message is anybody who's struggling in

Saylor Cooper:

life just get help. If, if one person doesn't get it, find

Saylor Cooper:

someone who does, right.

Kelly Falardeau:

Exactly.

Saylor Cooper:

Because I hear you. Suicide is terrible,

Saylor Cooper:

because you think if I end my life, I won't be in a more pain.

Saylor Cooper:

And we've heard it times, if you do commit suicide, you don't go

Saylor Cooper:

to heaven, which I actually intentionally intentionally kill

Saylor Cooper:

yourself just for attention. You may not but if you if you really

Saylor Cooper:

suffering God, like understands it, you have at the same time,

Saylor Cooper:

you know, if I do this, I'm gonna leave a big hole behind

Saylor Cooper:

what my family

Tyler Evans:

Oh, yeah,

Saylor Cooper:

Kelly, I'm proud of that you were strong and you

Saylor Cooper:

did not. He did not act. And I want to promote the National

Saylor Cooper:

Suicide Prevention Lifeline, if you are having thoughts of

Saylor Cooper:

suicide, please. I don't know if Canada if it's available, but in

Saylor Cooper:

the US. It's called 988. That's the mental health emergency.

Saylor Cooper:

That's the equivalent to 911 for mental health emergencies. And

Saylor Cooper:

even if you're not trying to commit suicide, if you just need

Saylor Cooper:

to talk to someone, there's someone there who will listen,

Saylor Cooper:

they're not like licenced counsellors. If anything,

Saylor Cooper:

they'll just help get you started to like, help you

Saylor Cooper:

connect with research resources, such as a therapy. And of course

Saylor Cooper:

they won't. They won't. They won't act, that they won't allow

Saylor Cooper:

authorities or anything, unless they do believe you are going to

Saylor Cooper:

act and commit suicide and you have a plan. So if you even if

Saylor Cooper:

you're not going to commit suicide, if you just want to

Saylor Cooper:

talk call Nine, eight, and they can help you.

Tyler Evans:

And there's also another number, it's 802 73825.

Saylor Cooper:

That's the same. That's the same, that's the same

Saylor Cooper:

number. And now that it's so much shorter 988 It's so much

Saylor Cooper:

shorter to remember. It's, it's so much easier for people to

Saylor Cooper:

call.

Tyler Evans:

Yeah, absolutely.

Kelly Falardeau:

So you guys, I would love to extend an

Kelly Falardeau:

invitation to you guys to be on my podcast. Yeah, we talked

Kelly Falardeau:

about it. Yeah. Yeah, I would love for you guys. Because my

Kelly Falardeau:

next book is called Grit, guts and courage. And basically what

Kelly Falardeau:

it is, is it's stories of people who have overcome something. And

Kelly Falardeau:

so I would love to interview both of you guys. And so what

Kelly Falardeau:

we're doing is we're taking those interviews, and it's a

Kelly Falardeau:

podcast, and it's also a book. So I'll just put the number here

Kelly Falardeau:

in the chat, because I've got the hero app also. So So you

Kelly Falardeau:

just use that text, the word grip. And it 202-866-2844

Tyler Evans:

That's

Saylor Cooper:

it already. I listened to all your podcasts. I

Saylor Cooper:

did.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, you did. I know. You're on it.

Saylor Cooper:

Yeah, yeah. Yeah, it I love to be on it. So yeah.

Saylor Cooper:

Before we close out, I'm gonna leave this to you, Kelly.

Saylor Cooper:

Because you know what?

Saylor Cooper:

You're just not entrepreneurial, friend. You have personal fun to

Saylor Cooper:

us. And if you don't mind, especially, you know, finances

Saylor Cooper:

are tight right now. Of course, because I'm not making money

Saylor Cooper:

yet. I hope it's gonna be very soon of what I'm doing. But if

Saylor Cooper:

you don't mind, I would love to get on an aeroplane and come see

Saylor Cooper:

you in Edmonton.

Kelly Falardeau:

Oh, that would be cool. Yeah. Where do you

Kelly Falardeau:

where do you guys live?

Kelly Falardeau:

I'm in Houston, Texas. He Tyler. He's four hours east of me.

Kelly Falardeau:

Oh, cool.

Kelly Falardeau:

Well, I was in a year ago. So I'll keep that in mind that you

Kelly Falardeau:

guys are in Texas. So then next time I'm in Texas, we can get

Kelly Falardeau:

together. Exactly. And so

Kelly Falardeau:

yeah, that would be

Saylor Cooper:

so Kelly's inspirational life. Kelly's

Saylor Cooper:

integration with journey.

Kelly Falardeau:

Thank you so much.

Saylor Cooper:

Thank you when in the depths of despair, when the

Saylor Cooper:

flames took hold of her Holy Spirit refused to break even

Saylor Cooper:

when the world seemed to forsake course. Kelly Falardeau your

Saylor Cooper:

shining light. Your strength and courage are such a sight. You've

Saylor Cooper:

improved fire and image so strong. You inspire us all with

Saylor Cooper:

your beautiful song. Verse two, and I try and sing this actually

Saylor Cooper:

battling through surgeries and pain Luvable in in the shame.

Saylor Cooper:

Kelly rose above it all. And her spirit too strong the fall.

Saylor Cooper:

boastfully no bridge, from tragedy to triumph. Kelly's

Saylor Cooper:

journey shows us all that no matter what happens, we can all

Saylor Cooper:

rise up and stand tall. In the course, Kelly for Lago, your

Saylor Cooper:

shining light, your strength and courage are such a sight. You

Saylor Cooper:

then feel a file and emerge so strong. You inspire us all with

Saylor Cooper:

a beautiful song. Verse Lee, now an entrepreneur, speaker and

Saylor Cooper:

coach, a best selling author. Kelly's approach is the teacher

Saylor Cooper:

saw that we all enough. Perfect is we are strong and tough.

Saylor Cooper:

Outro Kelly, you are loved by all your light shines bright and

Saylor Cooper:

tall. Your journey inspires us to be strong, courageous, and free.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, yeah. So awesome. Thank you. Yeah.

Tyler Evans:

Oh, yeah. We really appreciate you being on here

Tyler Evans:

today.

Kelly Falardeau:

Yeah, it's such an honour to be on your show

Kelly Falardeau:

with you guys. Thank you so much for having me

Saylor Cooper:

and I can't be on your show. Well, give it up for

Saylor Cooper:

Kelly Falardeau Everybody on the Hope without Sight episode