Kelly as one of the Most Inspirational People of 2020.
About the Guest: KELLY FALARDEAU
(pronounced fa-lar-doe)
Kelly Falardeau is a burn survivor since the age of 2 on 75% of her body. She found a way to go from near-death to success; from the ugly scar-faced girl to the TEDx stage twice, Fierce Woman of the Year, a 7x International Best-Selling Author, recipient of the Queen Elizabeth Diamond Jubilee Medal & YWCA Woman of Distinction. A documentary about her life story called “Still Beautiful” launched on TV plus Goalcast launched a video that has almost 10 million views. Now she’s a full-time Amazon Best-Selling Strategist, coaching people to become best-selling authors. On Christmas day, Global TV announced Kelly as one of the Most Inspirational People of 2020.
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About the Host:
Saylor Cooper is more than just an entrepreneur – he’s an inspiration. Despite facing the challenges of living with a disability, Saylor has never let that stop him from pursuing his dreams. Alongside his best friend Tyler, he’s embarked on a journey in entrepreneurship that has taken him to incredible heights.
At the heart of Saylor’s mission is the belief that anything is possible if you put in the hard work. And that’s exactly what he’s done. As the creator and host of Real Variety Radio, Saylor has built an internet radio station that offers an incredible range of programming from every genre of music and shows. He’s also the driving force behind the Hope Without Sight Podcast, where he interviews guests who have overcome challenges and become an inspiration to the world.
But Saylor’s ambitions don’t stop there. He’s always looking to attend networking events like Podapolooza and Speakers Playhouse to connect with fellow entrepreneurs and share their journeys together. He’s also working with speaking coaches to get booked on different types of stages and share his message with the world. And that’s just the beginning. Saylor has big plans for the future, including monetizing his internet radio station and hosting life coaching events to help others achieve their dreams. He’s also set his sights on writing a number of books, including an autobiography about his own life and a collaborative work with some of his most inspiring podcast guests. Ultimately, Saylor’s goal is simple: he wants to show others that no matter what challenges they may face, anything is possible if you have a dream and are willing to work hard to achieve it. And with Saylor leading the way, there’s no limit to what we can all achieve.
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About the Co-host:
Tyler Evans is an integral part of the entrepreneurial journey of his best friend and business partner, Saylor Cooper. Despite facing his own unique challenges, Tyler is determined to make a difference in the world through his hard work and unwavering dedication.
As an active participant in the day-to-day operations of Real Variety Radio, Tyler plays a crucial role in the success of the internet radio station that offers diverse programming from all genres of music and shows. He’s also a key contributor to the Hope Without Sight Podcast, where he helps to bring inspiring guests who have overcome adversity to the forefront.
Tyler’s passion for entrepreneurship is matched only by his love of networking. He enjoys attending events like Podapolooza and Speakers Playhouse, where he can connect with fellow entrepreneurs and learn from their experiences. While Tyler may not have founded or created anything on his own just yet, he’s an important member of the team and his contributions to the venture are invaluable.
Looking to the future, Tyler shares Saylor’s vision of making a difference in people’s lives and inspiring others to pursue their dreams despite any challenges they may face. He’s excited about the possibility of monetizing the internet radio station and hosting life coaching events alongside Saylor to help others reach their full potential.
Tyler’s ultimate goal is to collaborate with Saylor on writing books that share their individual and joint experiences, including an autobiography about his own life. Together, they hope to demonstrate to the world that anything is possible if one has the courage to chase their dreams and put in the hard work necessary to achieve them. With Tyler’s unwavering determination and entrepreneurial spirit, there’s no doubt he’ll continue to make a positive impact on the world around him.
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Transcript
Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of
Saylor Cooper:Hope Without Sight with your host Saylor Cooper, and
Tyler Evans:this is your co host, Tyler Evans.
Saylor Cooper:Yes for episode 39. We're almost episode 40 and
Saylor Cooper:hopefully outside. On this episode, we have a very special
Saylor Cooper:lady. I got to know her through speakers play house. And guess
Saylor Cooper:what? We we work together this past Saturday to write and
Saylor Cooper:publish a book together in one day. We attempted to publish but
Saylor Cooper:we got behind but it's no big deal. We're going to finish it
Saylor Cooper:up. But before I welcome her I want introduce Kelly Falardeau
Saylor Cooper:is a burn survivor since the age of two on 75% of her body, she
Saylor Cooper:found a way to go from near death to success to the ugly,
Saylor Cooper:ugly scarred face go to that TEDx stage not once but twice. A
Saylor Cooper:documentary about her life story. Still beautiful. Launched
Saylor Cooper:on TV. The video launch has over 10 million views. She's a full
Saylor Cooper:time award winning speaker and best selling author strategist
Saylor Cooper:coaching people to become best selling authors. Thank you,
Saylor Cooper:Kelly. Yet local TV announced Kelly is Kelly's one of the most
Saylor Cooper:inspirational people of 2020. Please welcome my dear friend
Saylor Cooper:Kelly Falardeau Kelly, how you doing today?
Kelly Falardeau:Oh my gosh. You know, whenever I hear from you
Kelly Falardeau:put out just a giant biometric or so thank you for having me on
Kelly Falardeau:your show today.
Saylor Cooper:That so I want to start from the very beginning.
Saylor Cooper:So I know that at the age of two, it was a major incident,
Saylor Cooper:you will in a fire. Tell us what that day was like, What? What
Saylor Cooper:happened? How did it start? And just tell us from the start?
Kelly Falardeau:Sure. So when I was two years old, we lived on a
Kelly Falardeau:farm. And in spruce Grove, Alberta. And my cousins were
Kelly Falardeau:throwing shingles in the fire. They were nine and 11. And so
Kelly Falardeau:they do the shingles on the fire. And I wanted to be outside
Kelly Falardeau:with my cousins. And so my mom, let me go outside to be with
Kelly Falardeau:them. And not even I think it was like five or 10 minutes
Kelly Falardeau:later, my mom can hear us. I'm yelling and screaming and she
Kelly Falardeau:opened the door and saw me in flames. So what had happened was
Kelly Falardeau:that a spark had come out landed on my drafts and I exploded. And
Kelly Falardeau:so you know, they grabbed a bucket of water, they poured the
Kelly Falardeau:water on me put the plans out and rushed me to the hospital.
Kelly Falardeau:And I spent four months in the hospital there and every two
Kelly Falardeau:days I would have to be in the operating room for surgeries.
Kelly Falardeau:And then every two years until I was about 20 years old. I would
Kelly Falardeau:have to spend a month of my summer holidays in the hospital
Kelly Falardeau:having more reconstructive surgery.
Saylor Cooper:That's why Yeah, I know you had a lot of
Saylor Cooper:surgeries because you almost you almost didn't make it so so what
Saylor Cooper:do you mean by shingles? Like were they messing around with
Saylor Cooper:like firecrackers were throwing stuff in the fire like doing
Saylor Cooper:dumb stuff? And, and also like, I imagine the dress you have on
Saylor Cooper:like didn't have very flammable material or what? Yeah, so the
Saylor Cooper:shingles are from the the roof of the house is like there was
Saylor Cooper:old wooden barn shingles. And so that's what grandpa had told
Saylor Cooper:them. Well, we got to burn the the the old shingles, right? He
Saylor Cooper:said we have to go burn them all and get rid of them because we
Saylor Cooper:lived on a farm. So we did a lot of burning thing that could be
Saylor Cooper:burned. And so today, we're just throwing them in the fire. So
Saylor Cooper:they weren't doing anything they shouldn't have been doing. They
Saylor Cooper:just should have had an adult around when they make sense.
Saylor Cooper:Because then
Saylor Cooper:the dangerous part of me. Yeah, they should they should have
Saylor Cooper:adult around because anytime you play with fire, it's very
Saylor Cooper:dangerous.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, absolutely. And then the dress
Kelly Falardeau:that I was wearing had rayon. So it was a rayon dress, which is
Kelly Falardeau:flammable. And so it's not something that you know, I
Kelly Falardeau:should have been wearing, but that was back in 1968 when this
Kelly Falardeau:happened. So it was a very, very long time ago.
Saylor Cooper:And so, you were burned. So you I imagine you
Saylor Cooper:were on fire for quite a while which is why 75 percent of your
Saylor Cooper:body was burned, right?
Kelly Falardeau:Well, what I think happened is that I think
Kelly Falardeau:the spark landed on me and then I just exploded. Wow. And so
Kelly Falardeau:they got me the fire out as quick as they could. And I think
Kelly Falardeau:it was just because I was so little, like as a two year old.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, probably just barely two feet. So it wouldn't take very
Kelly Falardeau:much for, you know, for me to be burned.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah. And had you been older, maybe you wouldn't
Saylor Cooper:have been burned nearly as bad and you wouldn't have had as
Saylor Cooper:many injuries. And so yeah, that makes sense.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah.
Saylor Cooper:And so, yes, go to the hospital, you know, you
Saylor Cooper:spent months and years in the hospital like you've had, I
Saylor Cooper:think 40 surgeries, right.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah. So every two years, they would bring me
Kelly Falardeau:back into the hospital for more reconstructive surgery. So what
Kelly Falardeau:happened is my doctor needed me to grow taller, so that I would
Kelly Falardeau:have more skin to work with. So that was why they needed to wait
Kelly Falardeau:every two years. So then I would grow taller. And then I would
Kelly Falardeau:have more skin.
Saylor Cooper:I see.
Kelly Falardeau:And so some of those surgeries was my arm
Kelly Falardeau:underneath my arm, or it became it my, my arm joined my body
Kelly Falardeau:down to my elbow. So it didn't work very well. So then they had
Kelly Falardeau:a slice, they open my arm away from my body. And then they put
Kelly Falardeau:me in a body cast. And I was in that body cast for about six
Kelly Falardeau:months.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, that's yeah, I read on your on, I've
Saylor Cooper:watched some of your TEDx and I read your website, you had to be
Saylor Cooper:in a body cast, and the doctors had to do lots of skin grafts.
Saylor Cooper:They had to take certain skin off of certain parts of your
Saylor Cooper:body and just I guess, we graph it like,
Kelly Falardeau:so what they would do is because my legs were
Kelly Falardeau:probably the only spot that I had natural skin. So they would
Kelly Falardeau:take skin from my leg. And then they would put it like wherever
Kelly Falardeau:my body needed a skin graft. So it could be on my chest. It
Kelly Falardeau:could be on my arms underneath my arms, my face. One time, my
Kelly Falardeau:chin, like my, my mouth wouldn't open and close properly, because
Kelly Falardeau:of the scarring on my chin and my face. And so they took this
Kelly Falardeau:piece of skin from my stomach. And they put that on my chin so
Kelly Falardeau:I can open and close my mouth. So I could smile.
Saylor Cooper:Wow, it's so um, I've heard I think your nose was
Saylor Cooper:damaged like your nose was almost gone too.
Kelly Falardeau:I know, my nose was fine. I mean, I do have some
Kelly Falardeau:scarring on my nose. It was my right ear. So my right ear is
Kelly Falardeau:really deformed. So you know you have that part of the your ear
Kelly Falardeau:that is all burned off on me on my one year. So it's a little
Kelly Falardeau:deformed ear so it doesn't work very Well.
Saylor Cooper:Well, so simply put it like when was the are
Saylor Cooper:you? Are you done with medical treatment yet? You know even if
Saylor Cooper:you are like when was the last surgery you had?
Kelly Falardeau:So yes, I'm pretty much done most of my
Kelly Falardeau:major surgeries but done up until from two to 20 years old.
Kelly Falardeau:And then when probably about I think, you know, about six or
Kelly Falardeau:seven years ago, I started doing some laser surgery. And so the
Kelly Falardeau:latest I started Dre was really cool. Basically what the laser
Kelly Falardeau:surgery what that does, is they drilled tiny little holes in the
Kelly Falardeau:scars tissue and then that pulls out the old skin and it allows
Kelly Falardeau:new skin to grow. So they did probably about I think it was
Kelly Falardeau:about 30 laser surgeries on me also. But that was like in the
Kelly Falardeau:last you know, six to eight years.
Saylor Cooper:Wow. In the last six so that is incredible. You
Saylor Cooper:had surgery from the time of the incident until 20 early 20s I
Saylor Cooper:don't know. I've never heard of anybody that has gone through
Saylor Cooper:that before. You know Kelly, you're such a hero I admire you
Saylor Cooper:so much for that and you've overcome that and you're good
Saylor Cooper:now it's just so awesome. And now that we talked about your
Saylor Cooper:medical you know all that stuff medically. You had to go food to
Saylor Cooper:recover. Let's talk about like growing up i Of course I know
Saylor Cooper:you've had You have lots of scarring. And of course, that
Saylor Cooper:that caused a lot of implications to such as
Saylor Cooper:bullying. And I know, your times were very tough, but how did
Saylor Cooper:you? How will you still resilient to get through these
Saylor Cooper:times? And of course, if you have any stories to share your
Saylor Cooper:take it away.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, so resilience is a big thing,
Kelly Falardeau:right? Like, how do we get through some of you know, being
Kelly Falardeau:teased and bullied. When I was in grade five, I remember
Kelly Falardeau:walking past my teacher's desk and someone had drawn a picture
Kelly Falardeau:of me, and it was a circle. And it had scribbles all over it.
Kelly Falardeau:And it said, Scarface. And my teacher had already dealt with
Kelly Falardeau:it. But I was still devastated. Because of course, I knew that
Kelly Falardeau:picture was about me, because there was nobody else in my
Kelly Falardeau:classroom that had scars on their face. And so I thought,
Kelly Falardeau:What am I going to do about this? Like, how am I going to,
Kelly Falardeau:you know, get through this because, of course, I was
Kelly Falardeau:devastated. I mean, I was praying and hoping my scars
Kelly Falardeau:would go away. I remember when I was about 15, I would pray to
Kelly Falardeau:God and I would say, Dear God, please don't make me wake up in
Kelly Falardeau:the morning. But if I have to, can I at least be scarless, so I
Kelly Falardeau:can be pretty like all the other girl, you know, thank you Amen.
Kelly Falardeau:And of course, I woke up and of course, the scars were still
Kelly Falardeau:there. And I was devastated. Because I just wanted my scars
Kelly Falardeau:to be gone. I was I didn't want to be the ugly Scarface girl
Kelly Falardeau:anymore. But I always wanted to focus on the future. So I would
Kelly Falardeau:always, you know, be daydreaming about what I wanted my life to
Kelly Falardeau:look like. And, you know, being married and, and having a you
Kelly Falardeau:know,
Kelly Falardeau:I never dreamed about having kids. I never thought I would
Kelly Falardeau:ever be a mom.
Saylor Cooper:Exactly.
Kelly Falardeau:Because I my scars
Saylor Cooper:nobody would want you.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, who would want me I didn't think anybody
Kelly Falardeau:would want me. And then the second thing was, I didn't think
Kelly Falardeau:I was physically able to have kids. I thought because of my
Kelly Falardeau:scarring, the way it's so tight around my body, I didn't think
Kelly Falardeau:I'd be able to have kids. So I think for a lot of it, it was
Kelly Falardeau:just about not taking everything personally. And, you know, just
Kelly Falardeau:just pushing through it and just realising that I deserved a life
Kelly Falardeau:just as much as anybody dead. Right. Like I had people that
Kelly Falardeau:were saying to me, I can't imagine going out in public
Kelly Falardeau:looking like you. And I would like well, what am I supposed to
Kelly Falardeau:do they home and do nothing?
Saylor Cooper:Exactly. And you're, you're getting a message
Saylor Cooper:of hope that you are you. I am me. Tyler, you are you and if
Saylor Cooper:people don't want to accept us for who they are, that's on
Saylor Cooper:them.
Tyler Evans:That's right. You know, your story, Kelly. It
Tyler Evans:really inspires us because we've been through maybe not the same
Tyler Evans:situation, but similar ones where we were not expected to
Tyler Evans:live. I mean, we were born, both of us three months premature.
Tyler Evans:And yet, we still survived we our lungs collapsed as babies.
Tyler Evans:And yet we were in the NICU. And we we made it through?
Saylor Cooper:Yes, we did. We made it through.
Tyler Evans:It was a few months later, but we did. And my twin
Tyler Evans:brother, his eyes reversed on their underwear. He wasn't
Tyler Evans:wanted anymore. And now he's fully sighted in everything.
Saylor Cooper:And in fact, Kelly, we are writing a memoir
Saylor Cooper:about this. And I know I was in the workshop with his Saturday,
Saylor Cooper:I enjoyed it so much I question like whether, cuz I'm this book
Saylor Cooper:I'm writing now, which is about stress and personality, by no
Saylor Cooper:means not the only one. I'm going to write many, many more
Saylor Cooper:like I just questioned like, which one I want to publish
Saylor Cooper:first. And the reason why I chose to publish this book first
Saylor Cooper:is one, it does relate to my topic, which is about overcoming
Saylor Cooper:life's challenges, and also living a life of bliss. It gives
Saylor Cooper:a lot of information on how to do that. And also, I got strong
Saylor Cooper:I got started and work on that book first. But by no means
Saylor Cooper:like, by all means I do have a manuscript. We entitled we have
Saylor Cooper:manuscripts of a memoir. In fact, we went over it. This past
Saylor Cooper:week, I stayed with him, we will never so what I'm gonna do is
Saylor Cooper:I'm gonna start combining with chat GPT. And you know what, I
Saylor Cooper:think this is a book that I want to publish next after I finish
Saylor Cooper:this current one. How's that sound?
Kelly Falardeau:That sounds fantastic. I love the idea.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah.
Saylor Cooper:And once you know how to do it, you'll be able to do as many
Kelly Falardeau:books as you want not the beautiful thing
Kelly Falardeau:about, you know, publishing a book on Amazon is they make it
Kelly Falardeau:so easy. And it's free to put your book up on Amazon. And so I
Kelly Falardeau:just love it. Yeah. Because, of course, since I can't see
Kelly Falardeau:everything like, I'll just need help with each time I doing. I
Kelly Falardeau:just need help with the visuals sections for formatting and the
Kelly Falardeau:covers and all that, you know, to make sure it looks good. It
Kelly Falardeau:does well. And what and what's cool is we don't have to just
Kelly Falardeau:put our book on Amazon. We can even put it in stores everywhere
Kelly Falardeau:as well. And paperback eventually. That's right.
Tyler Evans:Yeah, two hundred people can pick it up and read
Tyler Evans:it in mainstream stores that way. It's not just on Amazon,
Tyler Evans:you know, and I believe that they will come. I mean, I think
Tyler Evans:first Amazon, yeah. See how it goes. And then in the future,
Tyler Evans:expand, and then include audible, audible as well. So,
Saylor Cooper:exactly. And you know, and you know what? Yeah,
Saylor Cooper:that day, definitely will come and so yeah, totally. And it
Saylor Cooper:will. Like, what else do you have to share? Like, the I also,
Saylor Cooper:I remember, I did see your TEDx about you give me a message.
Saylor Cooper:About a looking in the mirror? That one no.
Kelly Falardeau:So what happened was, I knew that I
Kelly Falardeau:wanted to do a TEDx talk. I just didn't know what I wanted it to
Kelly Falardeau:be about. So this one, this one TEDx event, the theme was
Kelly Falardeau:unprovable or unsolvable problem. And I thought, You know
Kelly Falardeau:what?
Kelly Falardeau:Ugly is could be made into an acronym. It's only four letters.
Kelly Falardeau:And I thought, why don't I make ugly into an acronym and make it
Kelly Falardeau:into a beautiful word? Ya know, nobody thinks that the word ugly
Kelly Falardeau:is beautiful. And so. And I've been called ugly so many times,
Kelly Falardeau:and I've called myself ugly. You know, I think sometimes we are
Kelly Falardeau:our worst or our harshest critic, because ourselves. And
Kelly Falardeau:so I thought, you know, what, I want to change just I want, I
Kelly Falardeau:want to make this better. And I thought to myself, why when new
Kelly Falardeau:people learn that the mirror talks, okay? So, and I thought,
Kelly Falardeau:You know what, here's what it is when people watch No, wait, when
Kelly Falardeau:little girls and little boys watched no way that 23456 years
Kelly Falardeau:old, they see the Evil Queen talking to the mirror. And she
Kelly Falardeau:asked the mirror question, and the mirror talks back. And I
Kelly Falardeau:thought, oh, my gosh, we learn at such a young age that the
Kelly Falardeau:mirror talks to us.
Saylor Cooper:Yes.
Kelly Falardeau:And it's our voice. It's our own voice that
Kelly Falardeau:we're hearing. But still, we think that the mayor is talking
Kelly Falardeau:to us. And so I thought that's fascinating. I you know, because
Kelly Falardeau:I wanted to know, how do people know that? And I know that when
Kelly Falardeau:I would look in the mirror, and I would say Yuk, who's gonna
Kelly Falardeau:love that, like, I'm covered on scars, who's gonna love someone
Kelly Falardeau:that looks ugly like me. And you know, of course, I was being
Kelly Falardeau:very hard on my style. So anyways, so I thought, okay,
Kelly Falardeau:ugly, What can it mean? And I came up with all kinds of words.
Kelly Falardeau:And so the U stands for unique, every single one of us is unique
Kelly Falardeau:in our own special way. The G stands for gorgeous, or if
Kelly Falardeau:you're a guy, then for good looking. And we're all gorgeous
Kelly Falardeau:or good looking. And we what we have to do is stop comparing
Kelly Falardeau:ourselves to other people. And I know that when I stopped
Kelly Falardeau:comparing myself and worrying what everybody else was thinking
Kelly Falardeau:about, I started to realise that I am beautiful, I am gorgeous.
Saylor Cooper:I then will I've compared myself to other people,
Saylor Cooper:because I haven't felt like I haven't been good enough. And
Saylor Cooper:that is not healthy.
Kelly Falardeau:No, absolutely. Because you're comparing
Kelly Falardeau:yourself to other people. And yet, you might have skills and
Kelly Falardeau:talents and other qualities about you that make you an
Kelly Falardeau:amazing person, even more so than the other person. Right? So
Kelly Falardeau:we're comparing ourselves to people. And every time we do
Kelly Falardeau:that, we diminish ourselves.
Saylor Cooper:Yes, we do.
Kelly Falardeau:The L stands for love of all we are all
Kelly Falardeau:lovable. The problem is sometimes that we don't always
Kelly Falardeau:hear it, or we don't always feel it. And when we don't hear it or
Kelly Falardeau:feel it, then we think nobody loves us. And that's not true.
Kelly Falardeau:Everybody. People do love the peppermint. We need to now you
Kelly Falardeau:know share it with the world more. We need to reach out to
Kelly Falardeau:people more and tell them that we love them. I would do this
Kelly Falardeau:little exercise. It would be like a Sunday morning and I
Kelly Falardeau:would just text like randomly 10-20 people and say, Hey, has
Kelly Falardeau:anybody told you how special you are? And, people would text me
Kelly Falardeau:back. And they would say, thank you. You don't know how much I
Kelly Falardeau:needed to hear that today.
Saylor Cooper:Oh, that's so cool, because we all need to
Saylor Cooper:hear that
Tyler Evans:That is amazing.
Saylor Cooper:And we should maybe implement this in our hero
Saylor Cooper:system that we have in that text like this go out to our members
Saylor Cooper:at certain time, which will, we'll talk about hero in a
Saylor Cooper:little bit.
Saylor Cooper:But yeah, L What does? If you have nothing else for the L What
Saylor Cooper:is the y stand for
Kelly Falardeau:The Y stands for you. So the unique,
Kelly Falardeau:gorgeous, lovable you is Darrell beautiful, and not the basis of
Kelly Falardeau:my TEDx talk?
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, Kelly, you have made fine, because I'm
Saylor Cooper:still understanding myself. Because I've experienced that
Saylor Cooper:with certain people who have not accepted me for who I am.
Saylor Cooper:Because, I mean, I know they don't mean to, they just don't
Saylor Cooper:quite understand. And this, me being on this journey, has
Saylor Cooper:taught me so much about myself, especially since embarking on it
Saylor Cooper:last year, I, I've gotten to interview so many great people
Saylor Cooper:who have unique talents and skills and stories, just like
Saylor Cooper:you, Kelly, and you're teaching me so much. And I'm grateful for
Kelly Falardeau:Thank you. I am, I am grateful for you guys.
Kelly Falardeau:you.
Kelly Falardeau:And I love the work you do. Because
Tyler Evans:Thank you.
Kelly Falardeau:I know that there's other like burn
Kelly Falardeau:survivors out there, for example, who, who see their
Kelly Falardeau:their tragedy as a tragedy, and it holds them back in life. And
Kelly Falardeau:they think their life is over. And they think they can have a
Kelly Falardeau:great life. And then you'll see other burn survivors like myself
Kelly Falardeau:or Spencer B. Or John, you know, there's so many other burn
Kelly Falardeau:survivors out there that are like, Yeah, this happened to me,
Kelly Falardeau:but what am I going to do about it? And how am I going to help
Kelly Falardeau:other people. And so that's why I love what you guys are doing
Kelly Falardeau:is because you're not letting you know, your disability hold
Kelly Falardeau:you back in life. You guys are using your disability to help
Kelly Falardeau:other people. And that's, the more out is we need to show
Kelly Falardeau:people that we are lovable, we are acceptable. We deserve to
Kelly Falardeau:have a great life. And don't let you know a tragedy. hold you
Kelly Falardeau:back.
Saylor Cooper:No,
Tyler Evans:that's right.
Saylor Cooper:And you haven't and because I know like you'd
Saylor Cooper:never thought you would have kids. And you did. And so I'm
Saylor Cooper:I'm sure like, either even grind this message within your kids.
Saylor Cooper:And I know I also read in your bio that unfortunately, you had
Saylor Cooper:to divorce. And I mean, we get that that happens. I mean, what
Saylor Cooper:what led you to do that if you know if you wanted to get if you
Saylor Cooper:want to get married,
Kelly Falardeau:what happened was, we were together for 24
Kelly Falardeau:years. And I met him when I was like 20 years old. And I just
Kelly Falardeau:wasn't in love with him anymore. And it was a really toxic
Kelly Falardeau:marriage.
Kelly Falardeau:You know, I remember it was my 24th
Saylor Cooper:Yeah.
Saylor Cooper:anniversary with him. And I remember that little voice and
Saylor Cooper:it was our anniversary, I was really upset. I didn't even buy
Saylor Cooper:my anniversary gift. I I hate buying gifts. But I didn't even
Saylor Cooper:like to buy him anything. And I didn't. And he was really upset
Saylor Cooper:with me. I didn't buy him anything. And so I remember, you
Saylor Cooper:know, went to bed and I'm, I hear him snoring. So I know
Saylor Cooper:you're sleeping and and I went to the bathroom and I just
Saylor Cooper:started crying. And that little voice said to me, you've done 24
Saylor Cooper:years like this, you're only 44 years old. Can you do another
Saylor Cooper:24? And I said, No, I can't do another 24 years. And I said,
Saylor Cooper:okay, and I said Help me, get me out of this. And so that's what
Saylor Cooper:I did that I stopped crying and I went to bed and all of a
Saylor Cooper:sudden the universe started making things happen. And it was
Saylor Cooper:just, I just really felt like I needed to be let go out of that
Saylor Cooper:marriage. I just felt like, you know, my husband, it seemed like
Saylor Cooper:he felt like the life was full of doom and gloom. Like we were
Saylor Cooper:almost bankrupt. And my business was just costing us too much
Saylor Cooper:money at the time. And I just couldn't, couldn't make it. And
Saylor Cooper:then I saw the world is full of possibilities. I was learning to
Saylor Cooper:be a speaker. I was writing my book. And so I saw the world is
Saylor Cooper:full of possibilities. He saw the world as full of doom and
Saylor Cooper:gloom. And I just couldn't make it work.
Saylor Cooper:You're on the same page. And so like, I
Saylor Cooper:imagine like you asked you, you've prepared yourself you
Saylor Cooper:asked for a divorce. Wilson, you know, he agreed and, you know,
Saylor Cooper:off it went like that, right?
Kelly Falardeau:Well, here's what happened is we had a, you
Kelly Falardeau:know, a talk about it. And he said to me, are you saying that
Kelly Falardeau:we need to split up? And I said, Yeah, I think we do. And he
Kelly Falardeau:said, Well, you can only leave if you give me the house and the
Kelly Falardeau:kids. And I was like, Oh my gosh, my mother is never
Kelly Falardeau:supposed to leave her kids. And I said, Okay, I will leave, I
Kelly Falardeau:will give you the house and the kidsSo I didn't want the house
Kelly Falardeau:because I couldn't afford the house. And what we did with the
Kelly Falardeau:kids is I still saw them every day. He had to go to work every
Kelly Falardeau:morning at 530 in the morning. So I would come to the house
Kelly Falardeau:every day at 530 in the morning, I would get the kids off to
Kelly Falardeau:school, and I'd be there when they came home from school. And
Kelly Falardeau:then every two days they would come home with me. So I still,
Kelly Falardeau:you know, completely active with the kids live. Yeah. But yeah,
Kelly Falardeau:it was devastating for me, but but I knew it was what I had to
Kelly Falardeau:do.
Unknown:Wow. And you and your kids have imagined grown like,
Kelly Falardeau:yeah, my my daughter is 23. And my twin boys
Kelly Falardeau:are 20 years old.
Saylor Cooper:Wow. And it was hard. But you, you persevere.
Saylor Cooper:You push through. And now your business. It's on fire.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, that's right. Things are going really
Kelly Falardeau:well. Now that I'm coaching people to become bestselling
Kelly Falardeau:authors and get their books out. Yeah, that day, and then now
Kelly Falardeau:with chat GPT that's really been exciting. And so now I'm
Kelly Falardeau:coaching people how to read their books using CAT GPT. And
Kelly Falardeau:that's been really cool, too. So
Tyler Evans:yeah, I just I just wanted to say something about
Tyler Evans:that. Chat GPT I was joking with Saylor earlier on a text, I sent
Tyler Evans:him a text about my mom, a poem about her that I wrote from Chad
Tyler Evans:GPT. I told him Look, this app knows everything lol because I
Tyler Evans:basically told it. Hey, how do you make something in the some
Tyler Evans:simple? It told me exactly how to do it. How do you cook this?
Tyler Evans:How do you do this? How do you do this? How do you do that? And
Tyler Evans:it knows it. To know this. And what's cool is I'm just using my
Tyler Evans:phone, I went to the chat.open@ai.com. and all that
Tyler Evans:with my Google account, whatever. And I just typed it in
Tyler Evans:boom. just spits out stuff. Yeah, like really anything. You
Tyler Evans:can do research on anything.
Saylor Cooper:You can. It's it's an A since it launched in
Saylor Cooper:November. I'm just impressed of how far it's come along in such
Saylor Cooper:a short time. And I can't wait to see how much further it comes
Saylor Cooper:along.
Tyler Evans:The only thing I wish I wish it had current
Tyler Evans:knowledge of like 2023 and 2022. But it only goes up to 2021
Tyler Evans:right now.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, it's all it's all coming. You know, it'd
Kelly Falardeau:be another there's gonna be more versions coming out. I know that
Kelly Falardeau:I do like cat GPT for a little bit better. So it gives you a
Kelly Falardeau:little bit more in depth information. So yeah, but we're
Kelly Falardeau:just gonna keep working at it. And it's okay. Because the thing
Kelly Falardeau:is really chat GPT is to me, I use it as a foundational piece.
Kelly Falardeau:I use it as a brainstorming tool, an idea generator, and
Kelly Falardeau:then I put my own personality and my own content into it.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, that's what I do, too. Yeah. Yeah. And my own stories
Kelly Falardeau:and that sort of thing. So yeah,
Tyler Evans:and it knows it knows grammar too. Like let's
Tyler Evans:say you're like, hey, correct. The following sentence is
Tyler Evans:grammatically colon and type, just whatever you put, and then
Tyler Evans:just hit submit. Boom.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah. And that's something else that I've
Kelly Falardeau:been teaching people how to do in the workshop is how to take a
Kelly Falardeau:piece of content and edit it using CHAT GPT. And it's just so
Kelly Falardeau:cool.
Tyler Evans:Oh my gosh, you can even do with text, you can do
Tyler Evans:anything.
Saylor Cooper:And I look forward to using it so much more
Saylor Cooper:better. Yeah. So on that note, all businesses really sparking,
Saylor Cooper:right. We as we have some great surprises. I mean, it's all not
Saylor Cooper:just of course, you Kelly now you help you. You're a part of
Saylor Cooper:this, but it's all thanks to Michelle Abraham, She's
Saylor Cooper:incredible. We would not be where we are without her. And
Tyler Evans:we also can't we also can't forget your friends
Tyler Evans:Scott Irwin and Kevin Kirk.
Saylor Cooper:Of course, they've helped us financially I
Saylor Cooper:mean, we haven't made we haven't made any revenue yet. But I
Saylor Cooper:Kelly I'm sure you know, it's coming really soon?
Tyler Evans:Oh, yeah, it'll be here. Yeah.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah. And you know, and another thing you
Kelly Falardeau:could do is you could take your podcast episodes and make them
Kelly Falardeau:into a book.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, I'm gonna do that too,
Tyler Evans:that would be a wonderful thing. Absolutely.
Saylor Cooper:That's another project I'm gonna work on as
Saylor Cooper:well.
Tyler Evans:It's like limitless, what you can do with
Tyler Evans:a business. It really is. It's like, an entrepreneur is
Tyler Evans:freedom. It equals freedom. You can like, do what you want, and
Tyler Evans:not be tied down to a boss, ya know, and all the baggage that
Tyler Evans:might entail, you know, no offence on people who are
Tyler Evans:employed. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of unemployed
Tyler Evans:people. But
Saylor Cooper:so yeah, um, Kelly, I know, you have so much
Saylor Cooper:time that so I don't want to take up too much of that. So I
Saylor Cooper:just want to get to a few more things. So of course, she you've
Saylor Cooper:written five books, right? You're on your sixth one.
Kelly Falardeau:Actually, I think I've written six, and I'm
Kelly Falardeau:on my seventh.
Saylor Cooper:And so if you can show us if you show to us, like
Saylor Cooper:what your books are about where people can get them, and also
Saylor Cooper:tell us more about like, the speaking gigs, because I'm
Saylor Cooper:getting into paid speaking to I'm sure your flight king. He
Saylor Cooper:and I were working together until my speaking career needs
Saylor Cooper:to, to be where it needs to be, or until we die trying, as we
Saylor Cooper:say, so I'm with you there girl about all that.
Saylor Cooper:I love it. I love that you get in your message out there
Tyler Evans:Because Oh, yeah.
Kelly Falardeau:People People need to hear your guys's
Kelly Falardeau:messages. And absolutely, our messages, inspire people to have
Kelly Falardeau:hope. And that's what it's all about. We want to give people
Kelly Falardeau:hope that they too, can have a great life. And you know, I'll
Kelly Falardeau:never forget one day I was in Florida. And I was I was at a
Kelly Falardeau:burn survivor conference. And they were the 1000 burn
Kelly Falardeau:survivors there. And I was like, oh my god, this is crazy. And
Kelly Falardeau:this was the very beginning of my speaking career. So I didn't
Kelly Falardeau:have a lot of confidence in myself. And I, I remember
Kelly Falardeau:listening to this guy speaking, he was a burn survivor. And he
Kelly Falardeau:had no hands like his his fingers were all burned off. And
Kelly Falardeau:he was showing us how he is a drummer. And it made me dan
Kelly Falardeau:Cara. And he showed us what he did. And he talked for an hour
Kelly Falardeau:with no handouts or nothing. And I would like just totally
Kelly Falardeau:shocked. And here I am. I'm in tears and, and I'm texting my
Kelly Falardeau:best friend at the time. And I said, Oh my gosh, I don't know
Kelly Falardeau:how I'm gonna do this. Like, I don't even know why they want me
Kelly Falardeau:to speak because I didn't. I didn't see value in my story at
Kelly Falardeau:that time. And so I'm walking in, I'm walking, and I'm talking
Kelly Falardeau:to him and I'm crying. And I said, I don't know how I can
Kelly Falardeau:help these people. And I came to the end of the sidewalk. And I
Kelly Falardeau:looked up and I saw this street sign. And it said hope
Kelly Falardeau:Boulevard. And I was like, Oh my God. I guess I can just give
Kelly Falardeau:them hope.
Saylor Cooper:Yes.
Tyler Evans:That's right.
Kelly Falardeau:That is what you know we are meant to do is
Kelly Falardeau:just to give people hope that no matter who you are, or what you
Kelly Falardeau:look like or what you've been through, you're meant to live
Kelly Falardeau:through there so that you can teach other people how to have a
Kelly Falardeau:great life.
Saylor Cooper:That's right. Amen. We're doing just that.
Saylor Cooper:Tyler, right.
Tyler Evans:Yeah. You know, something? I, I am so thankful
Tyler Evans:to live. I'm so grateful that I was born here in America. I
Tyler Evans:really am. Damn going to be biassed, because you're from
Tyler Evans:Canada.
Tyler Evans:No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, by no means. But I'm telling
Tyler Evans:you,
Tyler Evans:when we think about what these people did, from our founding
Tyler Evans:fathers, to just all these people who bled and died for us
Tyler Evans:so that we could live in freedom and liberty, like that gives us
Tyler Evans:hope to the fact that we were not in this alone. You know, we
Tyler Evans:can live and freedom and liberty and pursue our dreams. Because
Tyler Evans:that gives people hope, knowing that you don't have to be
Tyler Evans:subjected to a king or a queen or whatever. You know, that can
Tyler Evans:give us hope. Freedom is hope. And also, you know, I'm a, you
Tyler Evans:know, I'm a Christian. And I believe ultimately, God gives us
Tyler Evans:hope through Jesus Christ. That's what I believe to see
Kelly Falardeau:you guys ever get asked, I know I get asked
Kelly Falardeau:this question every once in a while and people ask me. Do you
Kelly Falardeau:wish that this never happened to you
Tyler Evans:being blind? Oh, yeah.
Tyler Evans:Oh, yeah. Yes, absolutely.
Tyler Evans:I've had Tom probably about that.
Kelly Falardeau:What do you say about that question? And bless?
Kelly Falardeau:I'm fine.
Tyler Evans:Oh, yeah. Well, I would say when I was younger,
Tyler Evans:you know, I used to be jealous of sighted people because I
Tyler Evans:wanted to do arrive I wanted to do stuff. And I thought, oh
Tyler Evans:being blind, oh, you can't do this. You can't do that. But in
Tyler Evans:reality, yes, you can. You can do anything. You may not be able
Tyler Evans:to drive yet, but they're working on it. Who knows? Maybe
Tyler Evans:in my lifetime? I'll see it. I don't know.
Kelly Falardeau:Well with the cars that drive by themselves.
Tyler Evans:Yeah. But then you got to think, you know,
Tyler Evans:malfunctions. And what if this happens? What if that happened?
Tyler Evans:You know, that's thing, but they're also making a car where
Tyler Evans:the blind person is in full control to, it isn't just a self
Tyler Evans:driving car, they're in full control of the car.
Kelly Falardeau:Wow.
Tyler Evans:Yeah. It's kind of like when you use an iPhone,
Tyler Evans:exactly. It's optimised to where you can use it sighted or blind.
Tyler Evans:And there might even be a feature in a car in the future
Tyler Evans:where you turn off this feature, and it reverts back to a sighted
Tyler Evans:person driving. And then you can turn the little feature on it
Tyler Evans:makes it where a blind person can draft kind of like
Tyler Evans:voiceover. Yeah, on the FM or talkback on an Android. But
Tyler Evans:yeah, me, personally, you know, I'm blessed as well, like the
Tyler Evans:fact that I don't have to see, I don't have to see to see the
Tyler Evans:future. In fact, yesterday, I was at church. And our pastor,
Tyler Evans:he was talking about how we, you know, don't have to, you know,
Tyler Evans:like, we can see, we need to see the whole picture, basically.
Tyler Evans:And he was talking about how the first thing I'm gonna see, he
Tyler Evans:mentioned me by name, he said, the first thing you're gonna see
Tyler Evans:when you get to heaven, is Jesus. And that's going to be
Tyler Evans:the greatest image you'll ever see. Yeah, never. So yeah.
Saylor Cooper:And I'm so blessed to be who I am to the
Saylor Cooper:fact that I was born three months premature, almost not
Saylor Cooper:expected to survive. Not the same situation, but kind of like
Saylor Cooper:with what you went through Kelly, they I'm here. And I have
Saylor Cooper:unique gifts. I'm blessed. Apps Absolutely. Same with me. You
Saylor Cooper:know, I was three months premature as well. And I wasn't
Saylor Cooper:supposed to live. But I did love it.
Kelly Falardeau:I love it. I know. When people asked me that
Kelly Falardeau:question, you know, do you wish it never happened to you? I say
Kelly Falardeau:if you were to ask me that when I was a teenager, I probably
Kelly Falardeau:would have said, Yes. I wish it wouldn't have happened to me.
Kelly Falardeau:But when you ask me that, as an adult, I say, I am happy that it
Kelly Falardeau:happened to me because Because of this, all these other amazing
Kelly Falardeau:things have happened to me. And I wouldn't be able to teach
Kelly Falardeau:people, you know how to love who they are, or to accept who they
Kelly Falardeau:are. If I hadn't been through this, right?
Tyler Evans:Well, I would, I would say the same. I would say
Tyler Evans:the same thing to because when I was younger, yeah, went through
Tyler Evans:phases. I wanted to see I wanted to drive. But now I'm actually
Tyler Evans:cool. Being blind actually like it.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah. I'm sure. I'm sure like you were at rock
Saylor Cooper:bottom thinking you just want to give up and just be done with
Saylor Cooper:this, right?
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, yeah, as a child, I didn't want to be
Kelly Falardeau:burned. I wanted to be pretty, I wanted to be beautiful. I wanted
Kelly Falardeau:to have a boyfriend and, you know, be like my girlfriends.
Kelly Falardeau:But as an adult, I mean, I see the gift and what I what I'd
Kelly Falardeau:have and what I do. And so that to me is more important.
Tyler Evans:Oh, yeah. And you know, me being blind, I can
Tyler Evans:teach other people skills such as Braille and iPhone and the
Tyler Evans:Braille No, you know, all these things. And a lot of people
Tyler Evans:don't, you know, they don't. They may have heard of Braille.
Tyler Evans:But they don't quite grasp the fact. Like, some of them are
Tyler Evans:like, how do you use that phone? How do you use this? How do you
Tyler Evans:use that? How do you write and read and all this? Well, I can
Tyler Evans:show you where your screen readers, we use a regular
Tyler Evans:computer like everybody else, we can print documents, we can boss
Tyler Evans:them, which is brilliant. And with a braille printer, we can
Tyler Evans:do all these things. It's just blindness is one of those things
Tyler Evans:that you know, people just need to be educated on. And luckily,
Tyler Evans:there's been a lot of education on it. And there's been a lot of
Tyler Evans:improvements. For instance, when you go vote, you can vote via
Tyler Evans:Braille and a wheel on an on a machine with headphones. And
Tyler Evans:it's pretty amazing.
Tyler Evans:So there's a lie. That is there's a lot that has gone into
Tyler Evans:improving accessibility for blind people. And also it goes
Tyler Evans:back to our theme of hope without sight because in the
Tyler Evans:end, you don't have to see visually, to even have hope.
Tyler Evans:Exactly. And ultimately what what it boils down to help with
Tyler Evans:outsiders. Hope without a way in other words, even though you may
Tyler Evans:not see a way there's hope in the darkness.
Saylor Cooper:And on that note, I want to share I want to get to
Saylor Cooper:close close with marks because I do want to be respectful of your
Saylor Cooper:time. I don't know how much time you have. I know Kelly, your
Saylor Cooper:your you are on Hilo FM, which is great. And guess what we are
Saylor Cooper:too good to have our viewers, if you text bless to this number
Saylor Cooper:that will get you started on living a more happy life. I know
Saylor Cooper:Kela you are there, Clearly, but to all these viewers who are
Saylor Cooper:watching now on Facebook, text, this text BLISS to this number.
Saylor Cooper:I hope that everybody can see in the chat, because I put this in
Saylor Cooper:the chat.
Kelly Falardeau:What about what about on Facebook? Did you put
Kelly Falardeau:anything on there? Yeah, I did. Yes. If you text bliss to
Kelly Falardeau:832-481-6806, you will start your journey to a more
Kelly Falardeau:fulfilling life. So please do that. And we have some, we have
Kelly Falardeau:some great surprises for you once you opt in.
Tyler Evans:So absolutely. Just be on the lookout for a text.
Tyler Evans:And updates will be made available on there as well as on
Tyler Evans:our social networks.
Saylor Cooper:Exactly. And so on that note, let's go are
Saylor Cooper:closing remarks. And I want to read something very special to
Saylor Cooper:you on the podcast. Kelly. So Tyler, do you want to ask the
Saylor Cooper:our customary ending question to Kelly?
Tyler Evans:Yeah. So what do you say to people who feel like
Tyler Evans:there's not a way out that they just want to give it up? Throw
Tyler Evans:in the towel and just give up on life?
Kelly Falardeau:Oh, boy, that's an excellent question. You know,
Kelly Falardeau:um, I would say just to reach out to one person.
Tyler Evans:Yeah,
Saylor Cooper:yes.
Kelly Falardeau:All about reaching out to someone who
Kelly Falardeau:loves and supports you. And just ask them for help. There was a
Kelly Falardeau:time when I wanted to end my life. There was a time.
Tyler Evans:Oh, man.
Kelly Falardeau:And I remember sitting at the, you know, on the
Kelly Falardeau:floor, with my iPad googling how to end my life.
Saylor Cooper:Oh, no.
Tyler Evans:oh Man,
Kelly Falardeau:and but I have three conditions. One is my kids
Kelly Falardeau:couldn't be the one to find me. It had to be final. And it had
Kelly Falardeau:to be painless.
Kelly Falardeau:And I started thinking about my family. And I started thinking
Kelly Falardeau:about my kids. My kids would blame themselves. If I ended my
Kelly Falardeau:life. They would think it was their fault. They would think
Kelly Falardeau:they were bad kids. And if they were if they would have been
Kelly Falardeau:good kids. I wouldn't have ended my life. I started thinking
Kelly Falardeau:about my mom. My mom would have been devastated. My mom would
Kelly Falardeau:have been like, oh my gosh, maybe I should have been a
Kelly Falardeau:better mom to Kelly. My My sister would have said, Oh my
Kelly Falardeau:gosh, I can't believe this happened. If Kelly needed money.
Kelly Falardeau:Why didn't she come to me? Because we have money, we would
Kelly Falardeau:have given her all the money she needed. You know, and I started
Kelly Falardeau:thinking about all those people. And I thought, how horrible
Kelly Falardeau:would that be my ex husband even would have said, I wish I
Kelly Falardeau:wouldn't have had that fight with Kalin to would be living.
Kelly Falardeau:You know, and I thought this is just horrible. And I thought
Kelly Falardeau:what can I do? What is one step that I can take to you know, get
Kelly Falardeau:myself out of this. And basically, it was just, you
Kelly Falardeau:know, talking to people who I love and support who support me,
Kelly Falardeau:you know, my best friend. If, you know, if I were to come to
Kelly Falardeau:her and say, You know what, I want to end my life, she would
Kelly Falardeau:be like cow, what do we need to do to help you? Right? So it's
Kelly Falardeau:all about just reaching out to people that love and support
Kelly Falardeau:you. They want to help you
Saylor Cooper:and people that understand you too, because
Saylor Cooper:everybody can try to help but not everybody will understand
Saylor Cooper:what you've gone through because they have different
Saylor Cooper:perspectives. And I've experienced that myself.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
Tyler Evans:Absolutely. Yeah.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah. Anybody who thinks that they know the
Kelly Falardeau:solution to your life?
Kelly Falardeau:You know, and they don't, people don't always know. Oh, no, no.
Kelly Falardeau:And
Tyler Evans:people, you know, always say, you know, if there's
Tyler Evans:one thing you do not say to someone who's grieving. Get over
Tyler Evans:it. You don't say that? Yeah, just don't say that. You say,
Tyler Evans:Look, I can't I don't know. I don't fully understand what
Tyler Evans:you're going through. But in a sense, I kind of do but at the
Tyler Evans:same time, all I can do is just be there and try to help. And
Tyler Evans:grieving doesn't have to be just over a loved one dying or
Tyler Evans:anything like that. It could be just over a conditioner.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah.
Tyler Evans:Be a job you lost. It can be whatever.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah. And then the other thing that I did
Kelly Falardeau:because you know, sometimes you don't want to talk, right? I
Kelly Falardeau:would just go to YouTube and I would look up motivational
Kelly Falardeau:speakers. And then I would just watch videos and and that really
Kelly Falardeau:helped me too because a lot of times I don't feel like talking
Kelly Falardeau:to people, I'm very introverted. And sometimes I don't want to. I
Kelly Falardeau:don't want to I don't want to talk.
Tyler Evans:Yeah. Well,
Kelly Falardeau:motivational videos really helped me too.
Saylor Cooper:So your message is anybody who's struggling in
Saylor Cooper:life just get help. If, if one person doesn't get it, find
Saylor Cooper:someone who does, right.
Kelly Falardeau:Exactly.
Saylor Cooper:Because I hear you. Suicide is terrible,
Saylor Cooper:because you think if I end my life, I won't be in a more pain.
Saylor Cooper:And we've heard it times, if you do commit suicide, you don't go
Saylor Cooper:to heaven, which I actually intentionally intentionally kill
Saylor Cooper:yourself just for attention. You may not but if you if you really
Saylor Cooper:suffering God, like understands it, you have at the same time,
Saylor Cooper:you know, if I do this, I'm gonna leave a big hole behind
Saylor Cooper:what my family
Tyler Evans:Oh, yeah,
Saylor Cooper:Kelly, I'm proud of that you were strong and you
Saylor Cooper:did not. He did not act. And I want to promote the National
Saylor Cooper:Suicide Prevention Lifeline, if you are having thoughts of
Saylor Cooper:suicide, please. I don't know if Canada if it's available, but in
Saylor Cooper:the US. It's called 988. That's the mental health emergency.
Saylor Cooper:That's the equivalent to 911 for mental health emergencies. And
Saylor Cooper:even if you're not trying to commit suicide, if you just need
Saylor Cooper:to talk to someone, there's someone there who will listen,
Saylor Cooper:they're not like licenced counsellors. If anything,
Saylor Cooper:they'll just help get you started to like, help you
Saylor Cooper:connect with research resources, such as a therapy. And of course
Saylor Cooper:they won't. They won't. They won't act, that they won't allow
Saylor Cooper:authorities or anything, unless they do believe you are going to
Saylor Cooper:act and commit suicide and you have a plan. So if you even if
Saylor Cooper:you're not going to commit suicide, if you just want to
Saylor Cooper:talk call Nine, eight, and they can help you.
Tyler Evans:And there's also another number, it's 802 73825.
Saylor Cooper:That's the same. That's the same, that's the same
Saylor Cooper:number. And now that it's so much shorter 988 It's so much
Saylor Cooper:shorter to remember. It's, it's so much easier for people to
Saylor Cooper:call.
Tyler Evans:Yeah, absolutely.
Kelly Falardeau:So you guys, I would love to extend an
Kelly Falardeau:invitation to you guys to be on my podcast. Yeah, we talked
Kelly Falardeau:about it. Yeah. Yeah, I would love for you guys. Because my
Kelly Falardeau:next book is called Grit, guts and courage. And basically what
Kelly Falardeau:it is, is it's stories of people who have overcome something. And
Kelly Falardeau:so I would love to interview both of you guys. And so what
Kelly Falardeau:we're doing is we're taking those interviews, and it's a
Kelly Falardeau:podcast, and it's also a book. So I'll just put the number here
Kelly Falardeau:in the chat, because I've got the hero app also. So So you
Kelly Falardeau:just use that text, the word grip. And it 202-866-2844
Tyler Evans:That's
Saylor Cooper:it already. I listened to all your podcasts. I
Saylor Cooper:did.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, you did. I know. You're on it.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, yeah. Yeah, it I love to be on it. So yeah.
Saylor Cooper:Before we close out, I'm gonna leave this to you, Kelly.
Saylor Cooper:Because you know what?
Saylor Cooper:You're just not entrepreneurial, friend. You have personal fun to
Saylor Cooper:us. And if you don't mind, especially, you know, finances
Saylor Cooper:are tight right now. Of course, because I'm not making money
Saylor Cooper:yet. I hope it's gonna be very soon of what I'm doing. But if
Saylor Cooper:you don't mind, I would love to get on an aeroplane and come see
Saylor Cooper:you in Edmonton.
Kelly Falardeau:Oh, that would be cool. Yeah. Where do you
Kelly Falardeau:where do you guys live?
Kelly Falardeau:I'm in Houston, Texas. He Tyler. He's four hours east of me.
Kelly Falardeau:Oh, cool.
Kelly Falardeau:Well, I was in a year ago. So I'll keep that in mind that you
Kelly Falardeau:guys are in Texas. So then next time I'm in Texas, we can get
Kelly Falardeau:together. Exactly. And so
Kelly Falardeau:yeah, that would be
Saylor Cooper:so Kelly's inspirational life. Kelly's
Saylor Cooper:integration with journey.
Kelly Falardeau:Thank you so much.
Saylor Cooper:Thank you when in the depths of despair, when the
Saylor Cooper:flames took hold of her Holy Spirit refused to break even
Saylor Cooper:when the world seemed to forsake course. Kelly Falardeau your
Saylor Cooper:shining light. Your strength and courage are such a sight. You've
Saylor Cooper:improved fire and image so strong. You inspire us all with
Saylor Cooper:your beautiful song. Verse two, and I try and sing this actually
Saylor Cooper:battling through surgeries and pain Luvable in in the shame.
Saylor Cooper:Kelly rose above it all. And her spirit too strong the fall.
Saylor Cooper:boastfully no bridge, from tragedy to triumph. Kelly's
Saylor Cooper:journey shows us all that no matter what happens, we can all
Saylor Cooper:rise up and stand tall. In the course, Kelly for Lago, your
Saylor Cooper:shining light, your strength and courage are such a sight. You
Saylor Cooper:then feel a file and emerge so strong. You inspire us all with
Saylor Cooper:a beautiful song. Verse Lee, now an entrepreneur, speaker and
Saylor Cooper:coach, a best selling author. Kelly's approach is the teacher
Saylor Cooper:saw that we all enough. Perfect is we are strong and tough.
Saylor Cooper:Outro Kelly, you are loved by all your light shines bright and
Saylor Cooper:tall. Your journey inspires us to be strong, courageous, and free.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, yeah. So awesome. Thank you. Yeah.
Tyler Evans:Oh, yeah. We really appreciate you being on here
Tyler Evans:today.
Kelly Falardeau:Yeah, it's such an honour to be on your show
Kelly Falardeau:with you guys. Thank you so much for having me
Saylor Cooper:and I can't be on your show. Well, give it up for
Saylor Cooper:Kelly Falardeau Everybody on the Hope without Sight episode